"Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity – what to do?
get into a long debate about what shoes she should wear till you have ring fenced the unicorn
facebook is for children not fully developed adults.
Yes if there is two thingx i have learnt posting on stw it isPosted 4 years ago
1. Posting on the internet is shit – you must say this by posting on the internet and without any irony
2 STW is a very mature and grown up audienceyunkiMember
Public message saying that her tactics feel a bit more like extortion than charity work (with a LOL if you want)Posted 4 years ago
Then mention that all the harassment is stressing you out and you’re off to spend your donation in the boozer.. End with a NOW who’s feeling guilty (no LOL)scaredypantsSubscriber
Do you get to reply to these tags ? (I don’t facebook 😳 )
If so, either explain why you’re not giving or else explain that her shaming tactics are unsuitable and that (though you may have intended to initally?) you’ll therefore not be donating, or giving to something else instead (the shelter for abandoned self-centred passive aggressive bossy cows, perhaps ?)Posted 4 years agoCountZeroMember
Just point out that any charity donations you make are to charities of your choice, not somebody else’s, and certainly not somebody who resorts to online bullying, which is what her actions boil down to.Posted 4 years ago
I won’t be bullied emotionally into giving to some random charity by chuggers in the street, at my front door, or on line.muppetWranglerMember
Just point out that any charity donations you make are to charities of your choice, not somebody else’s,
This is the crux of the matter, if you feel the charity is worthwhile or you want to support the person doing it then contribute if not it’s probably time to get yourself on facebook and change your relationship status.Posted 4 years agodannybgoodeSubscriber
Ignore, plain and simple.
Anyone that knows you isn’t going to be bothered. Any who doesn’t isn’t going to be bothered.
I would at most perhaps PM the said blackmailer and polite point out that you aren’t particularly keen on being tagged in posts for not sponsoring someone you barely know but wouldn’t do it publicly.
I see arguments been friends I know in their 40’s and they come across like school kids so keep it discrete.Posted 4 years agomrlebowskiMember
She’s no better than the play-ground bully.
Tell her to do one.
Thats my response to bullies.
That is unless you connect with the issue.
TBH I think she’s bang out of order to try & bully someone into a charitable donation, particularly at the moment!
edit: shame her in return for being a bully!Posted 4 years agochvckMember5thElefant wrote:
Are you both able to have children legally , eg aged over 16, facebook is for children not fuly developed adults.
Why is what is essentially a forum with your friends (and maybe a couple of others) which can be locked down to not be fully public less acceptable than a forum with a group of strangers that is fully public?Posted 4 years agomikedoubleuMember
Long post, apologies in advance.
Mrs Doubleu and I have a lovely little boy aged 16 months. As part of preparing for his arrival, we went to NCT prenatal classes. Although the initial classes were a bit hippyish and not as practical as we would have liked, its been good to have a “peer group” going through the same stuff at the same time and we’ve kept in touch with the other families. It was a good source of advice and support for Mrs Doubleu when off on maternity leave and we had a 1 yr birthday party and picnic over the summer. So far so good…
A lot of the chat / advice is done via a private facebook group and we were all friends on FB. Some of the chat, among the mums, has been about losing “the baby weight.” One of the mums has decided to join weight watchers and even posted before and after photos cos she’s proud of the weight she’s lost. So far, so annoying (but no more annoying that most of the guff on FB… )
This same mum has now set herself a challenge of walking a marathon for a charity of her choosing and publicised this on her FB page and even in our private NCT group page. She overstepped the mark as far I was concerned when she went through alphabetically tagging her friends to recurrent posts about this charity challenge and her progress in training, with comments about people not having donated yet. Mrs Doubleu got tagged first and I said I’d defriend her if she did that to me. She’s been up to doubleu in the alphabet now, and tagged me with a “shaming post” and got duly defriended.
Mrs Doubleu has been tagged for a second time. My piss is simmering a little…
Live and let live?Posted 4 years ago
De-friend (and possibly upset the support group)?
Leave FB and go and live in the woods?wlMember
Ignore her. As someone else said, people who know you won’t be interested, and neither will people who don’t. The others tagged probably feel like you, they just didn’t have the balls to resist a childish, bullying and altogether unpleasant tactic. Perpetrator probably thinks she’s been clever when really it’s anything but.Posted 4 years agomikedoubleuMember
Ok… Despite my initial knee-jerk pee-stained bomber response, the thinking now is just to live and let live.
Mrs doesn’t want to cause any upset in the group. But we are not going to be coerced by this behaviour. We’ll just accept the moral high ground up above this childish behaviour, not give to “her” charity, and sponsor someone else when they go for an actual run.Posted 4 years ago5thElefantMember
Why is what is essentially a forum with your friends (and maybe a couple of others) which can be locked down to not be fully public less acceptable than a forum with a group of strangers that is fully public?
Because it’s friends and family. Have an anonymous bust up anonymously with another anonymous poster here and it really doesn’t matter. Do that with friends and family and it causes real problems.
It’s as bad as being friends with your neighbours. Madness. You can’t fall out with them if you don’t know them.Posted 4 years ago
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