- (Self-entitled C0ckwomble in) car hits child….guess who is at fault
we’ve received the following (suitably redacted) complaint after a motorist (of a certain age) hit a child who was getting her wellies out of her Mum’s car as it was a snowy day (but not crossing the road). I’m struggling to think of anything we can say to him apart from slow down, use your eyes & brain (despite already being the self-proclaimed worlds best driver), drive according to the conditions………oh and perhaps report to plod the next time you run a child over
Any other words of advice for him or us?
Due to the weather conditions this morning, I made the decision to take my wife to XXXXXXXX. This decision resulted in one of the most traumatic experiences of my entire life!
Whilst driving past XXXXXXXX School, a child of probably six or seven years of age ran out in front of me from between two parked cars. She was no more than four or five feet in front of me when she did this and therefore impact was inevitable.
Fortunately for this child and her family it was me driving, I say this for three very good reasons:-
1: Having spent my entire life in the motor industry and driven almost every type of vehicle there is, I am acutely aware of a vehicles capabilities and make sure it is always being driven within them.
2: I am extremely aware of the obvious dangers whilst driving near schools, especially at drop of and collection time, which is why I was travelling at less than fifteen MPH.
3: I have always been blessed with extremely quick reactions, so much so that another parent came over to tell me that he was shocked that I had managed to brake so hard in such a short space of time.
I’m confident this would not have been the result if the vehicle involved had been an LGV or someone driving more recklessly.
The reason for this email is for me to communicate in the strongest possible terms the need for an official safe crossing place to be installed on the road outside of the school as soon as possible.Posted 6 months agoscudMember
I work for an insurer and have spent the day dealing with an injury claim for one of the world’s vainest people, she wants plastic surgery for an injury where three independent plastic surgeons have said the risk of surgery far outweighs the small hardly noticeable scar she has from the accident, and that no way should she have surgery.
Her response, “you don’t understand, i am beautiful, and i feel less stunning now with this scar (it is 3mm on her chest), i need to feel beautiful and everytime i look in the mirror, i will no longer think i’m perfect!”
I struggled to keep a straight face……..Posted 6 months ago
Calculate the number of children who have crossed that road daily for the number of years that the school has been open, vs the number of them that have been hit by cars. Point out that as he’s the only person to have hit a child, it indicates that the solution may not be a crossing.Posted 6 months agomartinhutchSubscriber
Was the child injured? Or just his Rover 400 damaged?
Just write back suggesting that he follows the example of our beloved Prince Philip and calls it a day.
On another note, what is the stopping distance for a slightly ambiguous driving thread these days? 🙂
I struggled to keep a straight face……..
You can get plastic surgery for that.Posted 6 months agobigyinnMember
Ok the driver in question has built himself up to be a driving god, but other than that, what have they actually said that is that bad?Posted 6 months ago
Was the child injured? I’m assuming that because someone actually came into contact with a moving car that the incident was reported to the police?
I’m assuming the OP works at the school that the child is attending?rickmeisterSubscriber
FIF the driving god..
Unfortunately for this child and her family it was me driving, I say this for three very good reasons:-
1: Despite having spent my entire life in the motor industry and driven almost every type of vehicle there is, I still lack awareness of a vehicles capabilities and unsure if it is being driven within them.
2: I am extremely aware of the obvious dangers whilst driving near schools, especially at drop off and collection time and appreciate that even 15mph is too fast.
3: I have always thought I had quick reactions, but another parent came over to tell me that he was shocked that I had hadn’t managed to give enough space to brake safely in such a short space of time.
I’m confident I wouldn’t have hit her if my vehicle had been driven less recklessly outside a school.
The reason for this email is for me to communicate in the strongest possible terms the need for me to exercise greater care on the road outside of the school as soon as possible.
C OckwomblePosted 6 months agoTheLittlestHoboMember
Sorry to contradict most on here but a child is very capable of stepping out in a split second in front of a car as this guy has pretty much explained. You can drive to the conditions, you can take into account the weather etc but if a kid steps out from between 2 cars into the path of an alert motorist, driving at any speed in those conditions and is trying to be a safe driver and he hits the kid, the kid is too blame.
He even suggests a way of your school ensuring it limits the chances of this happening again, although tbh I can’t see how a crossing would help. More benefit getting all the lazy parents and kids to walk a bit further to school.Posted 6 months agomatt_outandaboutSubscriber
Calculate the number of children who have crossed that road daily for the number of years that the school has been open, vs the number of them that have been hit by cars. Point out that as he’s the only person to have hit a child, it indicates that the solution may not be a crossing.
You could narrow it further by pointing out the child has crossed the road X times since starting at school, and only on this day was it an issue…Posted 6 months agotheotherjonvSubscriber
impact was inevitable
Sounds like they did hit the kid then. In which case, I’d have to assume that some kind of injury (even a graze bruise) was sustained in which case it is the law to exchange details with other reasonably interested parties, and if that isn’t done then the police.
I’d be reminding them of that. Other than that – I might give it a few days and then a call to the local police as well just to ‘check if you need to do anything else having received the letter’Posted 6 months agoP-JayMember
Sounds like a dick, but I give him points for driving at less than 15mph and taking extra care whilst driving past a school, a lot of the other parents at my Daughters school couldn’t boast that, even in snow. Well, once their own kids are safely past the gates anyway.
Kids appearing between parked cars is one of those nightmares anyone wants to avoid and if you take him at his word the he tried to mitigate the risk about as much as anyone does that I’ve witnessed.
Assuming that someone is always to blame is one of those really recent things. Accidents do happen, and again, if you take him at his gloriously pompous word, it’s ‘one of those things’ that could have been much worse.Posted 6 months agorhinofiveMember
Picking up a few bits from the responses:
* Yes, ‘we’ are the school
* Wasn’t planning on getting an angry mob with torches to pay him a visit, but more to check I wasn’t missing anything obvious before getting back to him
* New school site; relocated from other side of the village and only opened in January
* Access, parking, road signs & markings all been very recently scrutinised and agreed with highways authority, planning dept and plod. carriageway reduction & ‘give way’ features to allow for a segregated cycle lane has obviously proven popular with the local driving gods
* Yes he hit the child, no he didn’t called plod
* Child thankfully not injured
* No witnesses to corroborate his tale, but child came from car parked on ‘school side’ of the road and was getting wellies out of the boot, so not (or shouldn’t have been) crossing the road as he says
* EDIT – we also have a secure, covered cycle or scooter space for every child and encourage all to use them or walk as part of a shiny new travel planPosted 6 months agojamj1974Subscriber
– Writes dickish email
– Understands appropriate safely considerations and describes driving with consideration and caution
STW Massive: –
– Sharpen pitchforks
– Get the lynching rope handy
Somehow this seems just a little holier than thou. Blokes driven safely just written a letter that makes him look a bit of a dick. Cut him some slack FFS.Posted 6 months agoGrahamSSubscriber
All very odd. A “extremely aware” driving god with “extremely quick reactions” doing “less than fifteen MPH” is somehow unable to spot a potential hazard until they are “no more than four or five feet in front” and “impact was inevitable”.
Something doesn’t quite fit there.
I mean, he is probably right in that the child was at fault for stepping into the road (and the parent/carer for letting them), but if he was half the omnipotent driving god he professes then there wouldn’t have been an issue.Posted 6 months agoCougarSubscriber
Man driving past school surprised to find child in road shocker.
It’s really simple, is this. Kids do not teleport. He should be driving at a speed where he can stop in the distance he can see, including the off-chance of kids running out from between two cars. He may well be a driving god, an Eagle-Eye Action Man and “only” doing 15mph, but this was stll demonstrably too fast if he hit a kid outside a school.
He might have a point about requiring a crossing – which is a problem for the council not the school, no? – but it’s unlikely to have solved the problem of either welly-wearing or running into the road.Posted 6 months agocromolyollyMember
Wasn’t planning on getting an angry mob with torches to pay him a visit,
Not trying to kick it off (we aren’t near page 4 yet) but the title of the thread and this statement are not exactly consistent
* Yes he hit the child, no he didn’t called plod
Doesn’t the school have a statutory responsibility to do so? After all he left the scene of an incident – that is an offence in itself, no?
but child came from car parked on ‘school side’ of the road and was getting wellies out of the boot, so not (or shouldn’t have been) crossing the road as he says
If driver wasn’t driving on the pavement, how did the two meet? Something off about this part of the story.
Why is parking in the road outside schools still allowed? Just creates opportunities for kids to not be seen.Posted 6 months agocromolyollyMember
but this was stll demonstrably too fast if he hit a kid outside a school.
Kids can appear from between parked cars quickly enough that any speed can be too fast. So ban cars driving outside schools, or ban cars parking outside schools. Of course if you ban the former the latter becomes impossible.Posted 6 months agoscaredypantsSubscriber
child came from car parked on ‘school side’ of the road and was getting wellies out of the boot
I struggle with this too – surely he’d have crushed the kid against the back of the car if this version is correct, though why he was driving straight at the rear of the car is also a mystery. I suspect mummy is protecting Tarquin by massaging the truth.
Truth, as ever, will be somewhere between the two versions but a parent ought to be supervising the (presumably excitable due to snow if you’re in the bottom 2/3 of the nation) kid a bit more closelyPosted 6 months ago
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