its actually hard to start it as she is not strong enough to balance my weight easily.
You’re using the “proper method”? Having started tandeming by going on a Swallow tandems weekend, where Pete Bird made it clear that was the only way to do it, we did try that for an awfully long time. However despite being far stronger than mrs aracer, because she was taller and heavier than me (she’s still taller, but I’ve got fatter) it always felt like a struggle. Eventually we decided to try both putting a foot down, and were both far happier as a result (though I have reverted to the proper method with my current male stoker, as it wouldn’t make any sense to do anything else). Worth giving that a try?
FWIW despite our weight/height distribution being opposite to the normal tandem rule of thumb, mrs aracer never had any desire to go on the front.
In answer to BA – much the same as what TJ wrote. We can cover much more ground than we could on solo bikes (where I’d get frustrated). No way would we have managed 1000km tours otherwise. I’m convinced we actually go faster when touring than I would on my own if it’s reasonably flat.