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  • milkyman
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    Me and my gf not been getting along for a while now, lots of reasons but haveing talked last night, which is somthing we never do we decide it not working for either of us so I said I’d move out, it’s her house so I get that, but this morning in 8 hours in to a 16 hour shift I and in just feel so sad and so low it’s coming to and end, I bought her a new car on finance back in august so that’s going to have to go back and I will have to deal with that when the time comes, I am just feeling so crap

    b r
    Member

    but haveing talked last night, which is somthing we never do

    Sorry, but…

    milkyman
    Member

    I’m not with you

    Premier Icon Drac
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    Keep the car.

    You’ll feel low for a bit but just move on I’ve never regretted ending relationships.

    milkyman
    Member

    I can’t keep the car if I move in to rented, I won’t be able to afford it and I don’t need it as I have a van

    Premier Icon Drac
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    Ah right in that case keep the van.

    milkyman
    Member

    Yeah I need the van for my job, any idea what will happen giving a car back on finance I guess they will sell it for what they can get and come after me for the balance

    milkyman
    Member

    After we had talked it through last night I just couldn’t get to sleep and had to start work at 12 so right now I’m tired out of my head and feeling shite

    oldnpastit
    Member

    but haveing talked last night, which is somthing we never do

    Sorry, but…
    😯

    You could try buying her some flowers and taking her out to dinner. Girls like that kind of thing.

    She’s probably just as upset as you (in which case this might just work).

    You don’t want to spend a lifetime in regret.

    milkyman
    Member

    We just don’t seem to have anything in common any more, we work at opposite ends of the clock, so hardly see each other and when we do it’s so akward, if I thought flowers and a meal would get us back what we had I would get them
    The house we live in is so small that gets me down, when I asked if she fancied moving it was an instant no which I understand it’s her house and she wasn’t prepared to risk it, I said just rent it out for a bit and see how we go

    milkyman
    Member

    Her mum lives across the road and comes across 3 times a day to walk the dog even though the dog runs round with me all night, so that gets on my nerves, I get home from work at 9 go straight to bed and at 10 every day in she comes slams the door and wakes me up, it’s like I have no privacy. I was sat down stairs in my undies last week eating my dinner in she came

    hora
    Member

    Have you looked at the T&C’s on the finance/handback?

    milkyman
    Member

    It is giving me concern hora but it seems like I’m in a lose, lose situation, I kind of expecting the worst

    agent007
    Member

    If you want her back then don’t buy her flowers. Move out, take it like it isn’t a problem and show her you’re strong. Keep in touch on a friendly basis but start becoming busy. Socialise with other people like mad, take up new hobbies, make new friends. You’ll become interesting to her again and if she can see you’re confident, making a success of things then her interest in you will probably reignite. And if it doesn’t then you’ll still be all the better for it. Trust me, this is the ONLY way, you have to let her go for a bit and prove you can survive just fine without her to get her back. Don’t show any weakness to her whatever you do. Good luck 🙂

    Premier Icon molgrips
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    If the car’s on hire purchase (which it most likely it is if you got it from a dealer) then you can just hand it back regardless.

    loddrik
    Member

    Couldn’t she buy her own car….? 😕

    What century are we in…..

    milkyman
    Member

    Thanks agent

    milkyman
    Member

    The car I had at the time (a jeep) I gave to her, she had it for a year or two and she said she wanted a new car, I said ok you pay the mortgage and I will get you a new car, that’s how she wanted it and it’s been working ok

    gordimhor
    Member

    Milky finish your shift and get some sleep before you do anything. Talk to a good friend or family. Good luck.

    tacopowell
    Member

    agent007 – Member
    If you want her back then don’t buy her flowers. Move out, take it like it isn’t a problem and show her you’re strong. Keep in touch on a friendly basis but start becoming busy. Socialise with other people like mad, take up new hobbies, make new friends. You’ll become interesting to her again and if she can see you’re confident, making a success of things then her interest in you will probably reignite. And if it doesn’t then you’ll still be all the better for it. Trust me, this is the ONLY way, you have to let her go for a bit and prove you can survive just fine without her to get her back. Don’t show any weakness to her whatever you do. Good luck

    Great advice but

    haveing talked last night, which is somthing we never do

    Great foundations.

    I bought her a new car on finance back in august so that’s going to have to go back

    Great Priorities.

    I am just feeling so crap

    Go ride

    oh and

    [video]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oKnsY8u1QhU&list=PLWnVxuqvY7JjxVBNd2d6Tu6CbY0qUN8Ay[/video]

    This place has become a half baked online version of Relate.

    milkyman
    Member

    We used to talk, we used to have a laugh together, but things just changed over time, I consider the chat forum to talk about things like this, I’m sorry if it’s only ment to be bike related, we have spoke today and we said we will each list 3 things on how we might be change a little for one another, we can only try

    Premier Icon mikewsmith
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    Her mum lives across the road and comes across 3 times a day to walk the dog even though the dog runs round with me all night, so that gets on my nerves, I get home from work at 9 go straight to bed and at 10 every day in she comes slams the door and wakes me up, it’s like I have no privacy. I was sat down stairs in my undies last week eating my dinner in she came

    The house we live in is so small that gets me down, when I asked if she fancied moving it was an instant no which I understand it’s her house and she wasn’t prepared to risk it, I said just rent it out for a bit and see how we go

    Not wanting to make light of the situation but run for the hills…

    Rob Hilton
    Member

    You’ll feel low for a bit but just move on I’ve never regretted ending relationships.

    Split with the woman I’d lived with for 6 years some months back, felt v. sad for 5 days. All of the next week I was very happy. Bits of up and down over the next few weeks and, although it was a though thing to do, it was the right thing.

    Plenty of Fist has been a recent source of entertainment and appears to have delivered me a rather cute MTB riding chika! There’s a life to lead after the one you’ve currently got…

    run for the hills

    I was gonna say there’s life after death, but resisted – now I just can’t help myself \m/ :mrgreen:

    Premier Icon LimboJimbo
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    “If the car’s on hire purchase (which it most likely it is if you got it from a dealer) then you can just hand it back regardless…”

    Bit more complicated than that I’m afraid. I wouldn’t do anything with the car finance, until you know it’s all off relationship wise. Then there is very much a right and wrong way of going about extricating yourself form the agreement.

    I haven’t much advice for relationships, but I do know a thing or two about car finance (job)

    Email in profile if you need pointing in the right direction.

    Premier Icon Cougar
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    Plenty of Fist

    There’s a Dr Freud on the phone for you.

    Premier Icon BigDummy
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    Plenty of Fist

    I larfed.

    OP – you will (IME) feel as low after the end of a really crap relationship and you would at the end of a good one. It sounds as though yours has little to recommend it. You’re going to feel crap, but then it will improve.

    SiB
    Member

    So then, her mother who has seen you in your skimpies and keeps coming back over……………worth a fling with even if it was just to show your ex you can have anybody you want now you’re single?

    She probably has a few similar traits and a possibility that her body shape is same as your ex’s…….what’s not to like? Win win al the way.

    Who’s name is the car in? Is it yours to give back or has your other half agreed to give her car back?

    tacopowell
    Member

    a possibility that her body shape is same as your ex’s…….what’s not to like?

    +25 years

    DO IT!!!!

    Trimix
    Member

    Finally the weather forecast dosent look too bad for the weekend, so go ride your bike.

    Oh, and about half the population are women, so start looking forward to the next GF.

    Rob Hilton
    Member

    Plenty of Fist
    There’s a Dr Freud on the phone for you.

    I do enjoy a good Freudian slit :mrgreen:

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