“If you “can’t be bothered” to communicate like a grown up then the problem is yours.“
Absolutely. If you can’t be bothered to do the reading part of communication without throwing a tantrum then I agree, the problem is yours.
“If IT becomes a bother then it must be harder work for you than it is for many others“
That’s quite true, since I work in IT. But I’m not sure how IT is relevant to your point. (I assume there’s space on your Picking Inane Holes In Things Bandwagon?)
Seriously, how is “recommend [to] me a thing” as a grammatical construction any different to “lend [to] me a fiver” or “give [to] me a break from what people think is pedantry but is actually just narrow-mindedness about fantastically trivial things that are in any case perfectly valid; and, even if they weren’t perfectly valid in event the strictest sense, would still be perfectly functional”?