- Playing hard to get
I once met a girl, she was gorgeous, funny, clever, opinionated, fun and did I mention she was gorgeous? Faaar to good looking to be with the likes of me.
All the guys in my social circle told me not to waste my time with her – that she was just a prick tease, that she got off on leading men on and nothing more. I decided to give it a shot anyway, I rolled out my dry/sarcastic wit and tried to pretend to be thoroughly unimpressed with her. It worked, she fell for it hook line and sinker. Eventually. After a prolonged period of being uninterested .
We had what some people might call a world wind romance. I cannot over emphasise how amazing she was in bed, nor can I over emphasise how much I enjoyed being with her ( for more than that reason). Ultimately things didnt work out for geographical reasons – 3000 miles will do that.
Point being, she played incredibly hard to get – but was worth it in the long run. Sooo worth it. Infact I sometimes wish I hadnt bothered because she puts almost every other woman I’ve met in the shade.
If you think this woman is potentially a good match for you then give her time – it might level the playing field though if you show a level of cheeky wit or even disinterest. If you can hit the right tone, women may welll find you kind of sort of irresistible. Assuming you have a full compliment of human features.Posted 9 years agomboySubscriber
Why do women do it? What’s the sense in it??!!
Herein lies your problem mate, you’re trying to understand women! GIVE UP NOW before you tear all your hair out as you’ll never succeed!
FWIW, it’s probably part of the “socially accepted norm” where it’s expected for a man to make all the moves and do all the chasing. Problem is that most people still buy this crap! Fortunate to say that I’ve experienced relationships in the past where my then GF’s were not constrained by these conventional thoughts, and I was in fact asked out by one of them, not the other way round! Sadly though, girls like that are few and far between… Good luck though, you may find one some day. I hope to again!Posted 9 years ago
Not really interested in her… goes back to Soma_rich’s post actually. Wanted to see the girl and have the traditional third date to decide what to do!! It’s the least a person deserves IMHO. Now I know. My love life is so confusing at the mo it’s scary. From a 9 month drought to all this shit. Swings and round abouts… I’m not that experienced when it comes to relations ships but even I know that all this messing about just makes one look stupid. IF all people where honest…Posted 9 years agosamuriMember
I used to really enjoy the chasing around myself. Obviously it can go too far but the challenge of wooing someone who was making things a bit harder than normal was great fun. As bunnyhop says though, once you get to a certain point you’re happier dealing with someone who lets you know where you stand and vica versa. It’s why I married an older woman in the end.
(She’s still completely crackers though) – my wife, I have no idea how bonkers bunnyhop is.Posted 9 years agosharkiMember
Friendship first……….. then make it a relationship, it’s a tricky one……lots of people myself included can fall straight into a relationship before any attempt at being great friends is made and established.
It’s rare to find someone who you fancy and can get on with so well.. and for them to feel the same way back..someone you can loose hrs in talking rubbish with them, mess about as mates and then sleep with each other…a bit like trying bikes, there’s many out there but unless you demo some you may never find the perfect one for you, but unlike bikes, women have feelings too and they need to feel the same way about you, if not…it’s not meant to be and life goes on.
Stop putting pressure on yourself to find ‘THE ONE’ chances are she/he’ll come along when you least expect it, when you’re relaxed happy and having fun just being you.
So get out there and get demo’ing… take em out, thrash em hard, if it all feels a little wrong, chances are is it and you need to try another!
Having said all that, with a failed marriage, very few relationships and shonky singlespeed what do i know.
I’ve demo’d a lot and and right now i’m happy with what i’m riding.
BTW, all women have issues and so believe it or not do us men it’s how you deal with them that matters.
Just enjoy the ride, don’t waste time…. lifes too short!Posted 9 years agostonemonkeyMember
keep chasing her but find someone else at the same time then if shes an arse go to the other one , if she knows someone else is interested in you, you become a better catch, bit like when your in a relationship more women fancy you. also keeps the ego up and doubles the chance of getting paid. oh an treat her lik sh1t some women seem to love thisPosted 9 years ago
No I’m not bonkers, infact a bit staid, prim and proper.
But I did marry a younger chap. I think I’ll start a thread on this.
Conor- Really pleased for you. [:-)]
You’re just slightly bonkers. Yes, start a thread on older women, that will be informed, clean and sensible 😉
Thanks BH, it’s only starting but feels good 🙂Posted 9 years ago
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