Permission or forgiveness??
Permission. Honesty is always the best policy.
We are in a tight spot regards money (just set up my own business) and permission was sought for a new build. I argued this bike would remain unchanged for a few years while we get back on our feet.
She understood how much cycling means to me and authorisation was provided. Build budget did spiral out of control but I blame the terrorists, blooming terrorists!Posted 4 years agoDT78Member
Sell lots of stuff on eBay, show other half how much money is in the paypal account, when it gets to a decent level (say £1k) spend 3 times as much on new bike. Say you got a great deal in the sales (you will won’t you!?) but never mention the true price…..
Alternatively do what some of my work buddies do, get stuff delivered to work and sneak it home…if it is the same colour she might not noticePosted 4 years agoMoreCashThanDashSubscriber
Permission is always asked – money is tight, we have enough but we also have other needs as well – next years school trips are looking £400!
Make sure it is proper permission – turns out “do whatever you want!” will not count as permission after the event. Trust me on that.
I am allowed 3 bikes – MTB/road/commuter. A fourth bike used to lead to threats to throw me – and the bikes – out the house for good and I would never see my kids again. The last time the subject came up she was going to leave me, so I’d keep the kids, the house and the bikes.
The terms are really starting to look much more attractive…Posted 4 years agomattbeeSubscriber
I always go for permission, since my wife also rides she has some idea what I own and what it costs but there are an amazing number of eBay bargains to be had!
My single speed was amazingly cheap to build last year, but that bit me on the bum somewhat when I then had to build her one for a similar price….
I also remember years ago Simon from Nirvana cycles offering me a set of Rockshox stickers when he was selling me some shiny new Fox Vanillas to replace my ageing Psylos….Posted 4 years agoMostly BalancedMember
ratherbeintobago – Member
When the n+1 bike comes together next month I’ll be using the tack that ‘I had enough bits kicking around so I just needed to buy a frame to hang them on’, which is partially true.
You mean you had some M5 bolts lying around?..
Thankfully she doesn’t see through me quite as easily as you do.Posted 4 years ago
Chainset, shifter, mech and seatpost is close enough.jambalayaSubscriber
Its easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.
I generally sought neither. Am in middle of a divorce.
A good friend of mine first introduced me to the phrase, he told me a few years later he only applied the strategy to his first marriage.
The ladies tend to adopt the strategy of just asking the question repeatedly until we men agree. There is a lesson in that.
My 2 pencePosted 4 years ago
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