I prefer to be able to choose how I open a link myself, rather than have it dictated to me.
Exactly. This way you have a choice.
If a link opens in the same window / tab, you have the option of easily forcing it into a new one by holding Ctrl (or any of the other methods above). Or sometimes I just open it in the same tab and use Backspace to go back where I came from when I’ve read it.
If it spawns a new window / tab, there’s no way I’m aware of of overriding this behaviour so you’re stuck with it.
There’s one site in particular that does this and it’s really irritating; I can’t immediately remember the site but it carries articles like “top ten movie villans” and such. At the end of the article it lists a few random other “recommended” articles. I’ll perhaps ctrl-click on three I’d like to read. Then I go to those tabs and each one says ‘click here to read the article’ and spawn a new tab, meaning I end up with seven tabs open, half of which are useless.