Dampers are choosy, lowers aren’t, is the short answer. It’s not completely true- some fork oils have more or less seal swellers, some don’t, some seals are more temperamental about oil though that gets less and less in quality forks these days, stuff like that.
But basically dampers really depend totally on how the oil will behave in order to work, as they basically all work by squishing oil through holes of varyign sizes (and that’s also very hard on the oil, fork oils are really durable).
Lowers fundamentally just want lubricated. I used to use diesel engine oil in my oldschool lyriks and boxxer, worked better than the recommended oils, less sticky.