- my Father has died
Estranged for over 20yrs. My choice. He died this week and was discovered on Thursday am. I’m not in the will however that was my choice I guess all them years ago. Still he never got to meet his grandson. He wasn’t innocent of course FAR from it. But that’s not the point. I feel loss and pain.Posted 8 years agoepicsteveMember
Sorry to hear that.
I’m not actually estranged from my father but only see him rarely as he takes no interest in me or my side of the family (not even so much as a birthday card for my kids). He actually moved a couple of years ago and didn’t even bother to tell me – only saw him this year after I tracked him down after finding out someone had tried to murder him with a hammer.
The odd thing is that we’re not even on bad terms when we do meet – it’s just that he’s completed uninterested.Posted 8 years agoshowermanMember
have 7 family members do not really have anything to do with any of them. still like you i am waiting the phone to ring as mum dad in their late 70s, to much pain to get involved with my family so cut free and live in my own world with 2cats a wife and 4 bikes never been so happyPosted 8 years ago
He was well known to the Police for the wrong reasons. The plain clothes officer who called on his sister to give her the news indicated that he’d been on the force many years and he was aware of him. A violent man in his time. Evil. The estate runs into six figures and I am excluded. Am I bothered? I’m cut up with the old memories that have resurfaced. I really didn’t want this day to come.Posted 8 years agodeadlydarcyMember
Mark, sorry to hear your news mate. Your grief will possibly take a strange path for a few weeks. Try not to fight the feelings too much and try not to feel you have to man up about things.
It was your decision to live your lives apart so you need to stand by that for your own sanity. Try not to dwell on the regrets. Talk to friends and loved ones who will support you through the process.
I can only sympathise, not empathise. Take care fella.Posted 8 years agoPopocatapetlSubscriber
Sorry to hear your bad news mate. Try not to dwell on what might have been mate. Get up early in the morning and head out on the bike for a few hours. Then go online when you get home and buy some new forks! Hope to see you for a ride soon, email in profile mate.Chin up.Posted 8 years agosc-xcSubscriber
I told the coroner that I have lived a good and just life. I owe my son guidance and duty. Thank you guys. I feel loss. A father figure is such a honour and hard task isn’t it. I am not bitter just feel sadness.
That’s exactly it. If his legacy as a shit dad is that you are a good dad…that’s something to feel good about.Posted 8 years agoJunkyardMember
sorry to hear this mark i dont have great relationship with my Dad he is cold and unemotional. At his wons mums funeral he looked like he was waiting for a bus ..he was not hilding itin there was nothing.Posted 8 years ago
Being a better Dad should be your goal and it will be easy
Chin up fella
Mrovershoot I bet you are very proud :). I have spent most of my life feeling embarrased(?) Infront of my family. Felt lesser even. Even though all were friendly and always willing to come out of their way to help me I’ve purposely avoided all invitations. Maybe this should now change.
The one thing that does annoy me is the Executor of the Estates attitude. I asked I he was ill before and if I could have any old photos or home videos from the property and I was told ‘no’.Posted 8 years ago
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