Had a phone call this morning from my Dad telling me that my eldest son (from a previous relationship) was found late last night. He lived with my parents so they were the police’s first port of call. Still no details on why, waiting to find more out.

He was 20 years old, his whole life ahead of him. Thanks to his Mother playing mind games with him in the past we weren’t as close as we should have been, but things were heading in the right direction lately.

I’m completely and utterly devastated. Struggling to comprehend anything at the moment. I’ve always said the only thing I imagine is worse than losing a partner is losing a child, sadly both for me is now a reality.

RIP my first born son, you were very loved and will be greatly missed by all 😢

Posted 2 months ago

I have no words that will mean anything after reading that.
you know that a lot of us in here care about you so please stay safe and treasure the other children.
massive hugs

Posted 2 months ago

Holy shit Gnusmas! I’m so sorry for you, I have no more words than that.

Posted 2 months ago

Shit, mate – you’ve been through some couple of years.
Really sorry to hear this. Young people have been through the wringer this year and a lot are suffering. I’ve a daughter his age living away from home and it scares me shitless.

Nothing to say beyond the usual; help each other, get support for you and your kids wherever it’s offered and whenever it’s needed

Posted 2 months ago

There’s nothing I can usefully add but I just wanted to offer my condolences with the others’.

Please take care of yourself the best you can.

Posted 2 months ago

Blimey, that is the saddest of news, as you say. Be kind to yourself, don’t be shy to seek support

Posted 2 months ago

**** Don’t have any wise words but thinking of you, hang in their buddy.

Posted 2 months ago

My thoughts are with you

Posted 2 months ago

So sorry to hear this. If there’s anything you need you know where I am

Posted 2 months ago

That’s truly awful to read. There’s nothing I can say other than I am very sorry for your loss.

Posted 2 months ago

So sorry to hear this gnusmas. Thinking of you. Take care of yourself.

Posted 2 months ago

This is the worst news of all, so sorry to hear what’s happened. You’ve had an awful time of it with everything that’s happened. No other words sadly. Xx

Posted 2 months ago

Very sorry to hear.

Take care.

Posted 2 months ago

So sorry to here this, my thoughts are with you.

Look after yourself through this difficult time.

Posted 2 months ago

Sorry for your loss. That is truly awful news.

Posted 2 months ago

That’s devastating, I’m so sorry.

Posted 2 months ago

So, so sorry – I can’t imagine what you’re all going through. Please take care of yourselves and – this’ll sound a bit trite – if there’s anything you need, just shout.

Posted 2 months ago

For **** sake. Come on world give the guy a break!

So sorry to hear that gnusmas. I can’t believe how much shit you’re having to go through. Stay strong man, please. For yourself. The other kids love you, go and hug them.

Posted 2 months ago

I only have one real fear in life, and that is outliving my kids.

My heart goes out to you gnusmas.

Posted 2 months ago

Really sorry to hear that, that’s awful. Nothing useful to say.

Posted 2 months ago

I have nothing to say. I just can’t imagine. This forum is here for you and feeling for you.
We share what you are feeling and I hope that can bring you some solace.

Posted 2 months ago

Alan, that’s awful news. I’m so sorry to hear it.

I’ve good friends from university who’s son committed suicide 4 years ago. They are heavily involved in Papyrus, who seem to have been a steady support for them.
Please reach out to Papyrus or any of u on here (even though I feel woefully ill-equipped to help).

https://www.papyrus-uk.org/

And

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10158712477340950&id=107245160949&ref=content_filter#

Posted 2 months ago

Thoughts with you @gnusmas

Posted 2 months ago

Mate i am so, so sorry to hear that, I know there’s nothing I can say to that will take the pain away, but I, and many others on here, are thinking of you!

Posted 2 months ago

Oh man, I’m so sorry

We’re all here for you

Posted 2 months ago

That’s truly awful news

I have no words 😓

Try and take care of yourselves

Posted 2 months ago

Terrible news. Thoughts are with you.

Posted 2 months ago

Dear god! You’ve been through the wringer this last few years mate.

I don’t know what to say only sincere condolences.

Look after yourself mate

Posted 2 months ago

Awful, thoughts are with you and your parents. Take care

Posted 2 months ago

I’m sorry to hear this. I don’t know what else to say.

Posted 2 months ago

I haven’t got the words…

Take care fella.

Posted 2 months ago

I’m so sorry. Wishing you strength.

Posted 2 months ago

Oh no. So sorry.

Posted 2 months ago

Words seem so inadequate. So sorry for your loss.

Posted 2 months ago

Just read this on my phone so didn’t see the poster’s name until I clicked through. Words utterly fail to describe how I felt when I saw who it was and what had happened.

The only thing I can say is to echo what everyone else has said above. We’re all thinking of you and if you ever need to just vent, talk, seek advice, help or just in desperate need of a distraction we’re all here for you at any time.

Posted 2 months ago

If hugs from a stranger on an internet forum help, have a huge one from me. So sorry

Posted 2 months ago

Mate so sorry to hear that.

Posted 2 months ago

Any words we can give can’t take the pain away at this terrible time.

Stay strong

Posted 2 months ago

So sorry to hear this. Everyone is here for you if you need us… All our best wishes from the team here too.

Posted 2 months ago

Blimey, puts my own miserableness into perspective. Nothing I can say will help but man I hope 2021 is better for you.

Posted 2 months ago