The chances are older starters will fail from general age (corroding to bits etc.) rather than over-use. They are designed and tested for this use after all!
Exactly. The battery in our old (low mileage) non stop-start car failed at about 9 years old.
What no-one has mentioned is how nice it is to sit in complete silence (except for music) at the lights, even the smoothest, quietest car has some noise and vibration. Stop start takes that away.
The auto restart after stalling confused the hell out of me on a hire car but that’s also cool.
All the evidence I’ve found is that it reduces consumption, reduces emissions, makes the air more pleasant for pedestrians around junctions and that the car tech has been developed to deal with the wear and tear.