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  • monogamy…..
  • Sandwich
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    Ducks are uncomfortable to lay on. Too much wriggling and quacking.

    nibby
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    😯 😮 😕

    supertramp
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    OFF TOPIC, SORRY – but why are some users names in black, and others in blue?

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    alpin
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    If the attraction is mutual, the feelings are very compelling and resisting the urge is taxing.

    ^^ this. i know how i’m going to act.

    this evening i rode with the GF to her work and then rode 20km up the river to get some miles in before i go away next week. on the return leg i see a small white dog running around. “i recognise that dog” i think to myself. and who is walking behind the dog? yeah! fricking lady friend and her fella. cue head down “oh something in my eye” eye rubbing. i must admit i LOL’d afterwards. then she has sends me a text along the lines of “well done, genius! smart move.” funny though.

    i feel i need to clarify here….

    nothing physically happened the other night that i would have been upset doing had the GF been there. it was more verbal, chemical clicking that was going on. sure it was, to use a cheesy phrase, “charged”, but we each have long-term partners that neither of us want to lose. she is going through a period where she is doubting her relationship and then up came the topic of blah blah blah and us two and how compatible we are/might be.

    and yes, i do remember posting something vaguely similar in the past…. but different girl, different situation.

    but, i really really like my GF, no, love is a better word. as said before she is my best friend, too. she makes me laugh and we’re happy together. she has her pitfalls,but mine are more numerous and worse. she puts up with a lot more shit than i have to.

    but all of that is irrelevant.

    my main point in posting this was with reference to the idea that we should remain faithful to one person, monogamy. only a few posters responded to this point, whereas many others didn’t; thinking perhaps that my moral compass needed aligning. (it might do, but that’s not the point).

    molgrips
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    i really really like my GF, no, love is a better word.

    Why did you write ‘like’ first?

    WRT the original idea then.. whichever -gamy you choose, it’s a decision arrived at by all parties concerned. You should never do anything because you think ‘they’ think you should – relationships or not 🙂

    tazzymtb
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    [video]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFK2Xq2RyiU&feature=related[/video]

    you’ve got watch the little feathery feckers, they’ll read porn and sleep with your missus 😯

    alpin
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    i like her and love her.

    i like her family, but i don’t love them.
    i love my family, but don’t always like them.
    i like curries, i don’t love them.

    but as i said, she’s my best mate first and foremost. my soulmate, if you will.

    anyway…. enough of this fruedian shit.

    tazzymtb
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    with regards to monogamy it’s just a social construct, but you can’t just decide to opt out for a bit because you fancy a shag. It needs to be discussed in an open and honest way between both parties and decide what works best for you.

    Just show your partner this thread, and see what she says. Then make a grown up choice based on her response. If you think “hmmm best not” then you’ve probably already stayed as near to the shagin another person category as you are going to get and may as well just follow your little alpin or heart and minimise the hurt to someone you love.

    oh and why the heck would you post it up here rather than have this discussion with your partner in detail, it shows a massive lack of respect.

    molgrips
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    I don’t think so tazzy. We don’t always know what to do with respect to our partners…

    tazzymtb
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    We don’t always know what to do with respect to our partners…

    then you don’t talk enough

    druidh
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    Reading the OP again, it doesn’t read like a “give me advice” post, more a starter for a discussion about monogamy. I reckon poor alpin is being completely misunderstood here – not least by the STW morals brigade who seem so lacking in imagination that they can’t envisage an alternative viewpoint.

    tazzymtb
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    you can always use the nature/nurture argument, we are genetically predisposed to spread our genes as far and wide as possible. Monogamous behavior is in fact against not only your in-built genetic programming but also may have a negative impact on the species.

    therefore do as you will shalt be the whole of the Law, love is the Law,love under will

    good old Mr Crowley

    alpin
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    fanks druidh…

    the OP was just to get some perspective as to why i was thinking what i was thinking. with hindsight i probably went into too much detail.

    but, are we preprogrammed to spend not just our lives, but sexual energies with one person?

    molgrips
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    Actually tazzy, the sexual behaviour of a species depends on a few factors.

    Species whose young look after themselves are indeed better off putting it about as much as possible. However species who need to spend a lot of time and effort looking after young (like us) are often found sticking together or living in packs, otherwise the young don’t make it to maturity to pass on genes.

    Other factors include the environmental – if for instance you live in a great big colony like sea birds, you need your mate to help fight off all the rivals; if you are a penguin then you need to take turns catching fish whilst your other half keeps the egg from freezing solid – so you need a partner with a vested (genetic) interest in the chick.

    tazzymtb
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    but, are we preprogrammed to spend not just our lives, but sexual energies with one person?

    no, we are meant to be at it like bunnies, but we’re also meant to live in small tribal groupings with an alpha male that gets to play while the littler ones get to w@nk like a safari park chimp

    EDIT: cheers molgrips I was trying to keep it simple 🙄 many years studying population and evolutionary genetics means I could go off on one a bit 😀

    Junkyard
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    it is a complicated issue with many theories. testicle size suggests we sleep around a little. Genetic tests of babies show a high number are not fathered by the person who thinks they have 10% ish iirc.
    It would seem we are predisposed to spread our genes.that said we are predisposed to do many things but with personal effort we can apply a moral code to our lives. Which code you choose, if any, is your decision. Fidelity certainly gets easier with age.

    GlitterGary
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    I got hissed at by a goose again tonight. A right mean look in his eye he had too. You wouldn’t catch a swan or duck doing that, would you?

    Sue_W
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    Alpin – I tried! To me it is a much more interesting discussion to consider whether, or not, all relationships should automatically be monogomous. This is completely different to talking about whether or not you should lie to your partner. There are many cultures which do have a tradition of non-monogamy, albeit most of those are in relation to men having multiple partners, which is probably a result of the dominance of patriarchal culture, but it does raise the question as to whether relationships can only be monogomous.

    This does not mean that I prefer non-monogomous relationships, but is rather a reflection that I think ‘social norms’ are often worth discussing, and should not necessarily be automatically accepted (after all, not so long ago it was socially unacceptable to be in an open same-sex relationship)

    tazzymtb
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    no but a duck would smoke cigars and be a web footed fascist

    tazzymtb
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    good effort Sue_W, but you’re battling against the tide of swans geese and blinkin ducks 😀

    alpin
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    i remember reading about something in france. many husbands had a mistress and many wives had a sugar daddy – or similar. it was all accepted if it wasn’t spoken about. each party knew what was going on but if it was said it was a problem.

    then there are some tribes in New Guinea, i think, where they worship semen. the ladies will carry out fellatio on male tribe members and in return the males get a cup of breast milk.

    so what is a social norm?

    Sue_W
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    I know … think I might just let the wild foul have it 🙂

    dan1980
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    but it does raise the question as to whether relationships can only be monogomous

    I know a few people who are in long term polyamerous relationships and seem on the outside happy and contented in their “families” so I don’t consider monogamy to be the only successful way to have a relationship. (Interestingly both “families” could be described as matriarchal, one 1F/2M and the other 2F/1M)

    The human mind is capable of some great things, so why shouldn’t it be able to love more than one person equally and maintain a successful relationship?

    tazzymtb
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    Genetic tests of babies show a high number are not fathered by the person who thinks they have

    Junkyard
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    then there are some tribes in New Guinea

    GPS and flight details please 😉

    Stoatsbrother
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    Monogamy is tricky. The alternative is harder. 🙁

    alpin
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    Junkyard – Member

    “then there are some tribes in New Guinea”

    GPS and flight details please

    sorry junky…. i did say “think”…

    The Sambia Tribe (New Guinea)
    In their tribal villages the Sambia segregate the sexes as much as possible. Men and women each have their own paths and meeting places. The boys have no contact whatever with the girls. The initiation process for them begins somewhere between ages 7 and 10. During the first phase, which lasts until they are about 15, they are expected to suck the penis of a mature boy every night and swallow the sperm. Without regular ingestion of male seed, the Sambia believe, boys will never grow up into strong, mature men.

    At first some of the boys dislike having to do this, but gradually all come to enjoy it and often strong ties of friendship are formed between the sucker and the sucked. After puberty the boys enter the second phase of initiation: it is now their turn to provide seed for the benefit of the younger ones. They do this until, at around age 22, they marry. Marriage terminates the young man’s homosexual life, since once his penis has penetrated a woman’s vagina it is no longer considered clean and it would be dangerous for any other male to touch it.

    Baruya
    From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    The Baruya are a tribe in the highlands of Papua New Guinea. They have been studied since 1967 by anthropologist Maurice Godelier.

    The Baruya are characterized by a strong inequality between males and females; all their organizations, institutions, and myths present male domination. They have a ritual in which boys give fellatio to young males and drink their semen, to ‘re-engender themselves prior to marriage’

    Etoro tribe
    From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    The Etoro, or Edolo, are a tribe and ethnic group of Papua New Guinea. Their territory comprises the southern slopes of Mt. Sisa, along the southern edge of the central mountain range of New Guinea, near the Papuan Plateau. They are well known among anthropologists because of ritual homosexual acts practised between young boys and men of the tribe. The Etoro believe that young boys must ingest the semen of their elders to achieve adult male status and to properly mature and grow strong.

    probably best if you put that GPS away now….

    supertramp
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    Alpin – I think you need to get this out of your system, talking rubbish on here with us fools isn’t going to cut it, get round there and get it over with!

    Cooroo
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    Bit late to the party here… But what Toys19 said a page or so ago is absolutely bang on.

    My ex-husband stayed out till 3am with a mutual female friend. 12 hour later we were discussing divorce (at his instigation). 10 years on he’s still with her and miserable, and I have a lovely man who supplies and maintains my mountain bikes. Perhaps you should do her a favour and get out??

    scruff
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    Never mind that. Dolphins are not gay sharks.

    Did you know flipper can smell when a lady garden is ripe, they have been known to get all Barry White with lady swimmers, dirty dirty flipper.

    rOcKeTdOg
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    scruff – Member
    I think SWANS are EVIL

    you should have a chat to Harry biscuit http://www.facebook.com/pages/Harry-Biscuit-from-Bleak-Expectations-is-LEGENDARY/252490029326

    Junkyard
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    probably best if you put that GPS away now…

    I may be more open to new experience than you 😯
    Unfortunately I am now soiled goods and old 😥

    hora
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    All that I’ve learnt in life is that women are far more devious and dirty than men.

    Just remember this, as a rule womens sexdrives increase with age…if your partner says she doesnt really want it anymore start looking for a new partner as maybe she doesn’t know it but she will be/is.

    Peace.

    hora
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    “I just had an argument with a girl I know. She was saying how it’s unfair that if a guy makes love to a different girl every week, he’s a legend, but if a girl makes love to just two guys in a year, she’s a slut. So in response I told her that if a key opens lots of locks, then it’s a master key. But if a lock is opened by lots of keys, then it’s a shitty lock. That shut her up.”

    soulrider
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    OP – your a muppet.. keep it in yer head..

    MrNutt
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    Mrs Alpin Snr has just asked me to tell you “go for it my son!”

    woody2000
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    I haven’t read the thread, but as ducks were mentioned this is my contribution – a duck in a dog mask.

    🙂

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