- marriage councillors …. anyone used one ?
Has anyone used a marriage councillor to get there marriage back together ??Posted 7 years ago
i did the worst thing possible at the end of last year and that was have an affair
ive been with my wife for 26 years since school and this is the only time ive strayed and im not proud of it
i was so full of guilt that i confessed it all and moved out of the family home and found somewhere to rent ?
we are on talking terms now and maybe seeking help is the best course of action.
has anyone used one of these and were the results positive?IHNMember
Yep, me and ExMrsNettles went to Relate for a while when it was clear that things were not going well. We did eventually split, but I think the time with Relate allowed that split to be amicable as we both understood why it had happened.
It’s only something that you can do if you both want to do it, but it can’t make things worse, so why not?Posted 7 years agoVaderMember
Yes and always a positive outcome. But as others have said, the outcome may not be the one you expected or wanted.
It is also hard, no way an easy ride and the councillor will not fix things for you, only you can do that.
It can be exhausting, I have left sessions completely shattered on more than one occasion. There may also be many sessions
You need to commit and be 100% honest, especially with yourself.
good luckPosted 7 years agomarsdenmanMember
Loads of honest stuff above
I’ll never forget just about the first thing the Relate counsellor said to me and Mrs Mm V1.0 which were
you may not get the result you want
it requires both of you to want it to happen
In our experience, I wanted to be there, wanted to make it work. Mrs MM 1.0 did not. – No big issues on either side – mostly just a just a communication thing
Still, eventual split was amicable…Posted 7 years agoplumslikerocksMember
It depends on why you strayed elsewhere….
Based on limited life experience I would suggest it tends to be because something isn’t quite right at home. If a communication issue underlies this, then it’s definitely worth your while trying. As others have said, it might be a make or break type scenario, but it must be better than being in limbo.Posted 7 years ago
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