- Male Privilege? Out late alone.
There’s plenty of places I wouldn’t go on my own at night.
And no, I’m not trolling. I’m just trying to drive home the point that “mostly safe” is insufficient.
Its only mostly safe for me too, so got nothing to do with Male Privilege.
Where are you going with this Cougar, its not a coherent argument you are putting forward here.Posted 5 days ago
Its Chuck Norris privilege of course, and while chuck does not realise he is privileged, Cougars situation is not going to get any better.
Of course, because of “Chuck Norris privilege” poor old Cougar and Donald Trump can’t travel freely throughout the UK like the rest of us. CN should do something about that.Posted 5 days ago
Oh good grief.
I know Cougar its ridiculous to think that just because someone does not have the same problem as you, that its at all connected to the problem in the first place. Who would put that forward as an argument, its crazy 🙂
On a more serious note though, does anyone have Chucks number so he we can let him know hes privileged. Once he realises it I am sure he can change his behaviour so that Cougar is no longer scared to go out at night.
That basically is your argument Cougar, you have to contest that surely?Posted 5 days agoceeptSubscriber
I haven’t read the whole thread, but you might like to read this little article, published by Jenny Tough last week:
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"How do you stay safe traveling on your own… as a solo woman?" I'm asked this a lot (almost daily), as I think all women who venture on their own do, and it's almost a valid question. The reason why I say 'almost' is because a solo woman's safety has some funny misconceptions. I get asked this question far more frequently when I'm heading into backcountry areas than when I walk down a city street. People are frequently surprised (and sometimes scared) to find out that I camp alone at night, and some folk can't even handle the thought of me going to a foreign country. 🤷🏻♀️🏔️ Women are taught from a very young age to take a multitude of daily actions to keep themselves safe, and that our safety is entirely our own responsibility. It is so consistently drilled into us that we never stop being aware of our vulnerability. In fact, the daily actions we make are so second-nature to us, we don’t even realise we’re doing it. This ingrained feature in my female brain does not switch off when I’m abroad, nor when I run in my hometown at night. We're always aware. ♀️ I don't mind being asked how I keep myself safe. I've been travelling solo for a long time now, and I'm pretty confident the world is full of more good people than bad. What worries me is when women who have yet to have their first adventure have their heads filled with this fear, this idea that the world is not a place for a solo woman to explore. It worries me that those women will spend their whole lives missing out on awesome adventures, never knowing that the world is a fantastic place to explore. 🌍💙 I'm not dismissing violence against women – it's a horrible truth of humanity that I couldn't begin to address in an instagram post. But adventure – especially outdoor adventure – is something that everyone has a right to. Please stop telling women they shouldn't have it. 🙋🏻♀️💜 📸 @jayfrench @freeridenewzealand @montaneofficial
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Cougar, we both should have given up yesterday 🙂 Don’t worry about it.
We have a difference of opinion on the privilege thing, but I bet we agree on the fact that some people have real fears about stuff they should not really have to worry about in this day and age. Sometimes we need to focus on the stuff that makes a difference, rather than the stuff that divides us.
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ceept’s post above sums it up for me, stop treating women like helpless victims and they might stop feeling like helpless victims.Posted 5 days ago
What worries me is when women who have yet to have their first adventure have their heads filled with this fear, this idea that the world is not a place for a solo woman to explore. It worries me that those women will spend their whole lives missing out on awesome adventures
I think she’s right and far more typical of the women I know – I asked three female friends if they were nervous about filling up with petrol and they ruthlessly took the piss. (…and accused me of backtracking when I excused myself by saying I’d read it on a biking forum.) So I’m not sure that many women in the real world are buying the message that they are the helpless victims the STW dinosaurs want them to be.Posted 5 days agojag1Member
I think most people agree that the risk of being attacked in the countryside is quite low for both male and female. However as a female if you do see that lone passer by the questions start passing through your head. Are they going to leave you alone? will they start making creepy pervy comments? if you ignore them will they get verbally aggressive? start following you? what about if I get a puncture and am stuck there fixing it? This is all learned behavior from multiple interactions with unpleasant men throughout life. I know most men are not like that, I also know a large number of men are. You can either go out anyway and ignore the voices in your head and creeps on the street or as many people do take the easier more comfortable option. In response the comments about how nobody knows if your male or female in the dark I can make a good guess at the sex of someone from their silhouette.
Female (will go out on my own in the woods in daylight, will stick to well lit public areas at night)Posted 4 days ago
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