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  • It hurts. It really bloody hurts.
  • gauss1777
    Free Member

    This place really does like to stick the boot in when somebody’s down.
    I often find myself inclined to speak up for the people who I disagree with on the forum. I do not agree with geetee, but (perhaps naively), am inclined to believe that his beliefs are not misogynistic in the sense that he has a ‘dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women‘, but a more genuine misunderstanding of some issues, as alluded to by Cougar.
    On the Brexit thread, Begum thread, …, we have people making intolerant and perhaps bigoted comments – but they do make their positions clear. Then people counter these ideas, with sarcasm and poor analogy etc etc, rather than clear arguments. Then they start telling those people that they are stupid, idiots, etc etc.
    It is hard to forget the time when someone was almost lynched for trying to get money back on their broken frame.
    I try not to comment on opinion threads, as I am very poor at getting my thoughts across clearly; but I do feel that we should try to model the way we’d like others to be.

    Cougar
    Full Member

    Without comment,

    GT has received a temporary ban. His response to this was to request for it to be permanent as he no longer wishes to be part of this forum.

    I mention this purely because if people are posting expecting a response then they’re not going to get one in the short term at least, and <mod> I’d request that you don’t slag him off when he doesn’t have right of reply </mod>.

    So… nice weather we’re having. About that game last night?

    outofbreath
    Free Member

    OOB – Ok – I’ll just pick a few misogynistic utterances from that last long posty of Geetees

    Ok, none of that seems misogynistic to me, but if it is, hit the report button. The mods will look at it objectively and if they agree with you they can remove it. Job done.

    scotroutes
    Full Member

    Brilliant. The bully boys win again.

    gauss1777
    Free Member

    There seems to be some confusion.

    This is about someone asking people not to repeatedly post certain stuff because it upsets them.

    Simple as that.

    Those asked to stop have repeatedly posted exactly what they knew would upset the OP on the same thread.

    Which is an answer in itself, I suppose.

    I will join the list of people who don’t know best when to shut up, but I think the above is somewhat unfair. Whilst I do not agree with what people have posted, they weren’t simply asked to stop, they were by name called trans phobic and misogynistic – they felt unjustly and attempted to clarify their position. Somewhat similarly to Cougar clarifying his meaning when using that word.

    ctk
    Full Member
    RustySpanner
    Full Member

    England 2 – Brazil 1.

    Result!

    tjagain
    Full Member

    Scotroutes – you really think its acceptable for someone to cause offense, not apologise for it, then to compound the offence by dismissing the concerns of those offended?

    I have offended folk on here, when called out for it I have apologised, considered what I have said and either shut up if I still believe it or changed my view in light of what was said to me.

    ransos
    Free Member

    Brilliant. The bully boys win again.

    No, the bully copped a ban.

    outofbreath
    Free Member

    Then people counter these ideas, with sarcasm and poor analogy etc etc, rather than clear arguments. Then they start telling those people that they are stupid, idiots, etc etc.

    Deffo this. Mind you that’s par for the course with forums and STW isn’t the worst by a long shot.

    sepultura
    Free Member

    This place is like EastEnders, but with worse story lines.

    outofbreath
    Free Member

    they weren’t simply asked to stop, they were by name called trans phobic and misogynistic – they felt unjustly and attempted to clarify their position. Somewhat similarly to Cougar clarifying his meaning when using that word.

    +1.


    @scotroutes
    +2

    mashr
    Free Member

    Deffo this. Mind you that’s par for the course with forums and STW isn’t the worst by a long shot.

    People had been reasonable with him for a long time, he wore them down to the point they couldn’t be **** anymore as he seemed stuck on repeat

    outofbreath
    Free Member

    People had been reasonable with him for a long time, he wore them down to the point they couldn’t be **** anymore as he seemed stuck on repeat

    Bullys always blame their victim, it’s the number one stock excuse.

    mashr
    Free Member

    Except I generally steered clear – nice try though 🙄

    cromolyolly
    Free Member

    This place is like EastEnders, but with worse story lines.

    I call BS. That is simply not possible

    cromolyolly
    Free Member

    Are we allowed to know what the reason for the ban was – what rule was contravened?

    colournoise
    Full Member

    (third time I’ve attempted to post in this thread, first time I’ve not deleted the post before hitting submit)

    Hmmmnnn.

    The forum has potentially lost a divisive voice, but an interesting one – I rarely agreed with geetee but found it fascinating to see his views and reasoning as they challenged my preconceptions and that’s a good thing.

    The forum is also poorer as his contributions to the photography thread were always very interesting although, again, our views on photography were poles apart.

    So, I’m torn. I get the upset Rachel feels (along with others I assume) and don’t wish that on anyone but I would hate this place to become an echo chamber like so many other corners of the ‘net. I keep some FB friends just because they hold and espouse views so very different to mine, and part of the appeal of here for me is that I can access a range of views on all sorts of topics – keeps me on my toes.

    If anyone is clearly and repeatedly attacking a particular group or individual deliberately to cause upset or offence then swing the banhammer as hard as you like. but if they are ‘just’ consistently expressing an opinion that they clearly hold true then I’m not sure that’s as valid a response – they need to be challenged rather than disposed of.

    Having modded a huge forum a few years ago, I know how tough the job can be and how much it relies on users reporting and peer-regulating (which is not the same as ganging up on…). I actually think the modding here is pretty damn good.

    I wish there was an easy answer, but I really don’t think there is. I would hope I would have the strength to ignore or challenge stuff posted here that upset me, but I’m not really in that position (unless the constant mocking of middle-aged, overweight men counts – BTW we deeply need some shorthand for a mocking sarcastic tone when typing text) so don’t know for certain.

    Deep down, and I know this isn’t the comfortable answer in many ways, I think any healthy online community needs to reflect the wider world it is a microcosm of and cycling (if we assume for just one second that is in fact the glue holding STW together) is a broad church. We need to deal with those dissenting voices here as we would anywhere – with a balance of understanding, empathy, constructive opposition, and (when absolutely necessary) sanction.

    athgray
    Free Member

    I have ducked in and out of this today and tried to formulate some thoughts on it. I feel sorry for the hurt felt by Rachel.

    I worked within an almost all male environment for 15 years with generally 40-65 year old guys whose world view did not fit my own. I found it quite toxic. A career switch only now sees me become friends and colleagues with openly gay and lesbian people. I don’t personally know any openly trans people and feel so lacking in knowledge on the topic as to be wholly unqualified to form an opinion one way or the other.

    I don’t think I am untypical of a lot of folk here. If I want to know what it feels like to be a 40 something heterosexual sometimes biking male I don’t have to walk a mile in most STWers shoes I imagine. It does feel like peoples keyboard finger engages quicker than their inquisitive mind to actually find out about multiple angles on a topic.

    I am at the stage of doing what I can to find out about LGBT issues and am truly interested in Rachel’s story, however on such topic I don’t think this is the place I would feel comfortable fielding any comment or truly inquisitive questions for fear of bringing in unintentional bias, coming across as ignorant, stupid or insensitive. I feel more at ease discussing this with people I know well enough who are dealing with similar issues.

    I am all for robust opinion and I am sure we all strive to be well read, however it’s clear from what I saw of the moderated thread in question, and what appears to be some deliberately inflammatory and derogatory terminology and language that we as users of STW are nowhere near where we need to be to achieve mature debate on what is a highly sensitive topic. Even how this thread has progressed highlights this. There is a specific thread for gender discussion. Use that for your thoughts. I won’t be posting on it as I just don’t know enough.

    I had a positive 18 month sabbatical from here and am considering doing so again as I get riled up by some posts and get narky back. I have no wish to be like that. This isn’t one of STW’s finest moments. Good luck Rachel

    stevenmenmuir
    Free Member

    My first thought when I see a thread this many pages long is that life’s too short. To the OP, there are good people out there, many more than the bad ones. The problem with the internet is anonymity. That same thing that allows people to open up about their problems also allows people to act without a shred of humanity. I think if everybody had to post under their real name they might act a wee bit kinder, or at least think a bit more before hitting submit.

    Cougar
    Full Member

    Loads of people: “this forum has some toxic people, we’d be better off without them.”
    Me: “yeah, but we can’t just ban people because we disagree with their opinions.”
    Load of people: “Yeah, but, drip drip…”
    Me: “someone’s just been given a couple of weeks off for exactly that.”
    Load of people: “Brilliant. The bully boys win again.”

    Like I said a day or two back, damned if you do…

    vickypea
    Free Member

    I’m not the best at expressing myself on here, but colournoise and athgray have made very thoughtful comments, imo.

    Cougar- you have a very difficult task, I think everyone acknowledges that. You can’t please everyone.

    wordnumb
    Free Member

    What would happen if Drac banned Cougar and Cougar banned Drac at exactly the same moment?

    bearnecessities
    Full Member

    Posting on this thread is probably like jumping into a pack of  particularly peckish wolves, but @colournoise sums up better than I could; I also agree on the bullying point.

    The op is as right as anyone to pop up her views and everyone else, including Geetee, is allowed to debate, politely. And, as has been my experience, reading some posts can change your views.

    The irony of some people though posting their white-knight comments here is laughable – some are experienced proper showers that launch into any thread to post their self-righteous comments that intend to do nothing other than to put down someone.

    ( I know, the internet, right? 🙂 )

    Anyhow, let us just remind ourselves of this gem.

    https://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/anyone-in-the-surrey-hills-area-recognise-this-chap/

    outofbreath
    Free Member

    Loads of people: “this forum has some toxic people, we’d be better off without them.”
    Me: “yeah, but we can’t just ban people because we disagree with their opinions.”
    Load of people: “Yeah, but, drip drip…”
    Me: “someone’s just been given a couple of weeks off for exactly that.”
    Load of people: “Brilliant. The bully boys win again.”

    Like I said a day or two back, damned if you do…

    Mods weren’t damned for inaction in GT’s case today – I didn’t see the mods getting any stick for “failing to ban” GT, and there was some support for evenhandedly applying the forum rules.

    gauss1777
    Free Member

    The irony of some people though posting their white-knight comments here is laughable – some are experienced proper showers that launch into any thread to post their of self-righteous comments that intend to do nothing other than to put down someone.

    Agreed.

    dannyh
    Free Member

    Unfortunately my initial thoughts when I read the OP have panned out as I suspected they would. My thought was:

    “Oh, oh. There aren’t going to be any winners here”.

    I don’t know the back-story to all this, and it seems a lot of pressure has been building across various threads.

    100% honestly…..

    The OP was a genuine outpouring of hurt and anger, and was quite upsetting to read. Knowing of allthegear’s usual very measured and considerate posts made it stand out. In my opinion, naming specific people from the off was always likely to lead to this point in the end. I would say that was probably an error of judgment, as I doubt she wanted it to end up like this.

    Unfortunately the named ‘usual suspects’ did keep doubling down. A few people who Rachel may well have not actually wanted ‘on her side’ went for jugular and hey presto, recriminations and regret all round.

    So, to move on…..

    Is anyone riding anywhere nice this weekend? Let’s hear about it…..

    outofbreath
    Free Member

    Anyhow, let us just remind ourselves of this gem.

    https://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/anyone-in-the-surrey-hills-area-recognise-this-chap/

    Until this thread I don’t think I ever noticed GT’s username, I guess we had different interests, but that thread’s made me smile.

    RustySpanner
    Full Member

    After rereading the whole of this again, I’ve noticed what I reckon is the most hypocritical statement ever made on this site.

    As we’ve had enough nastiness for a while, I’ll keep schtum, but there’s a free envelope of blancmange up for grabs if anyone wishes to pm me with suggestions…🙂

    frankconway
    Full Member

    Have followed this spiralling thread with interest. I wondered why Allthegear signed off posts as Rachel; I guess her post explains why.
    I have no interest in anyone’s gender at birth or their self-identified gender; I’m interested in the person.
    On this forum and in society generally there has been a noticeable increase in negative and offensive comments……if you don’t agree with me you’re wrong, thick with it, I know better than you etc.
    I’m with Dannyh^^^ in that I’ve always thought Allthegear’s posts to be informed and considered; I’m also in agreement that naming individuals in the first post was not the best approach but the fact that Rachel did that clearly shows how she feels and that should be taken seriously.
    Any time I see a long post on here I think…..trying too hard to justify themselves.
    Moving on to vickypea’s comment a few pages back about religion that’s a subject which brings out the bigots – and their posts are completely unnecessary; sky fairies etc. How many times have they or parents or grandparents said something like….God, help me or pray for (insert name). For those people who have a belief, leave them to it; if you don’t they could sneer about, for example, your ‘skills’ as a musician.

    aweeshoe
    Free Member

    Some people are so blinkered to the evidence that’s been put before them in countless threads before, how many times do they need to be told?
    Empirical evidence is based on observation and experience, which is open to so many variables and variations in interpretation; there’s been a paradigm shift since those opinions were formed.
    I’m not going to debate this and give a platform to the crap but I’m not going to be complicit by being silent either.
    The Cycling UK, the UCI and The Runnymede Trust are all focusing on inclusion in cycling this week so I have emailed them as well as notifying aquaitences at Leeds Beckett Uni as several recent threads have demonstrated how exclusive cycling is

    TurnerGuy
    Free Member

    I suppuse we should await the joining of ‘gtagain’ ?

    scotroutes
    Full Member

    Scotroutes – you really think its acceptable for someone to cause offense, not apologise for it, then to compound the offence by dismissing the concerns of those offended?

    Holy ****. It’s not like you just discovered the Internet. In this case, geetee rightly responded to the accusations made against him. Challenged, you couldn’t even come up with an example of the transphobia you’d accused him of. Even Rachel agreed there was no case to answer in that regard.

    And then we have the spectacle of the middle-aged white guys telling the lesbian she’s wrong to be worried about the perceived erosion of her, long fought for, rights. What a massive step forwards.

    trailwagger
    Free Member

    So that’s two members that have been hounded out of the group.
    I was going to leave in protest but then I thought “what the hell am I going to do all day at work” and decided against it.

    nach
    Free Member

    The lack of empathy some of you exhibit here, to the OP and people in general, is genuinely shocking.

    mefty
    Free Member

    So that’s two members that have been hounded out of the group.
    I was going to leave in protest but then I thought “what the hell am I going to do all day at work” and decided against it.

    It strong action like this that made this country great – I salute you.

    bigblackshed
    Full Member

    The bullys haven’t won.

    I speak from very bitter experience as a victim of bullying over a period of many years. The constant drip, drip of toxic, corrosive comments gives the victim a very clear insight into the behaviours, language and constant defence of their position that a bully will use to justify and admonish their actions.

    Some people have entrenched views and beliefs, but repeating those same views, time and time again, without any empathy for those that find it offensive, and being asked politely to stop, either genuinely lack social skills to recognise the hurt they are delivering or they are simple a bully.

    I have no time for bullys

    taxi25
    Free Member

    , but repeating those same views, time and time again, without any empathy for those that find it offensive, and being asked politely to stop, either genuinely lack social skills to recognise the hurt they are delivering or they are simple a bully.

    But they have. GT generally starts a thread himself to put his views across, for the most part I read it, more often than not agree with parts, but certainly not everything then move on to a wheel size thread or something. But others don’t, they embark on a campaign to shout him down. Some use reasoned arguments others just throw insults at him, he doggedly plugs away constantly repeated his beliefs. I don’t get the sense his repetition is to offend or bully just a means of defending himself and his views. None of which are really that extreme just out of step with prevailing views on here.
    Banning him for coming on this thread and defending himself when named by the OP is very much a low for STW.

    jamj1974
    Full Member

    The phrase ‘white knight’ is certainly getting a lot of use recently. It’s almost as if sticking up for people is undesirable and worthy of derision.

    Equality doesn’t mean people can’t be vulnerable and need support or understanding.

    ctk
    Full Member

    Jeez the homophobia in that Dave surrey hills thread.

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