it should be in the norton options list, run on demand only…
failing that, there is a "scheduled tasks" menu in windows iirc, you may be able to stop it using that?.
FAILING THAT!
i personally hate norton, its one of those things that permenantly screws with your computer, and wont allow you to remove it in order to keep a monopoly (or so it seems).
A program is availible called winpatrol, which, amongst many other clever things, can be set to monitor your windows processes, and then activly cancel all the requests for norton to start (for example)
also useful for other things, it can delay programs that are run on startup to prevent it getting clogged up.
ie:, run the vital ones, gives the computer time to settle, then runs the ones you want to use, waits for them, and once your working, starts to gently feed in any others.
anyhoo, its free
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and it may help with a fair few memory munching issues.
Oo, and its got a scheduled tasks editor iirc