I'm upset with my wife, is it me who is in the wrong?
My wife asked me the other day if I would mind if she went to a concert with her friend on new years eve rather than spend it with me & the kids, I said I would mind, (as to me NYE is about another year gone & another year to come with my wife) but she booked it anyway & now it has resulted in me being the unreasonable one, so how would you see the situation?
And yes she knows I’m posting the question on here so please be honest, I’m big enough to
saylie when I’m wrong.
Cheers.Posted 4 years agoCountZeroMember
Speaking from the POV of someone who really couldn’t give a rat’s ass for New Year, if my hypothetical SO wanted to go to a concert with her bestest friend, then I wouldn’t stop her, because it’s not unlikely that I could be in the same situation. Depending on who’s gig it is, I might even plead to be allowed to go with! 😀Posted 4 years ago
 Just noticed who it is: I’d be begging to be excluded under any and all circumstances! Use as a bartering tool, got to be worth lots in exchange. Offload the kids onto the GP’s, then go out for beers with some mates, relish the opportunity to get shitfaced while she’s screaming at GB.bearnecessitiesSubscriber
And yes she knows I’m posting the question on here
I’d say is the answer. You’re both comfortable enough to listen to arguments, so both probably think there are cases for both of your stances. Lucky buggers.
Oh, and Mrs 2U2R: You should have consulted, men have feelings you know.
2U2R: Coke & Hookers, Leeds. Dec 31st. Email in profile.
HTHPosted 4 years agoMidnighthourMember
It would not occur to me to stop a partner going in this particular situation, unless they were doing this constantly to the point of unfairness. Is it a marriage or a prison? She clearly thought you would be ok with it. Now you have done the heavy handed thing and she is (rightly) rebelling.
Make the most of it to ensure you can have a day out on your own or better still, play the decent partner, encourage her to go to her event and arrange a special day out for the 2 of you later in the week/month thats romantic and fun. Also, have some special time with the kids and do a bit of extra bonding with them. Its fun to have a parent just to yourself.
Who would you value the most – the supportive romantic or the sulky ‘do what I tell you’ person?Posted 4 years agosomafunkSubscriber
Personally i’d be more upset that she considers the mindless droning that is Gary Barlow to be a form of music, that is totally unforgivable in my opinion but as i’ve previously been outed on this forum for being an ignorant toss-pot music snob it’s not an issue i would ever encounter.
Send her to somewhere decent for New Years Eve, such as the Sub Club in Glasgow, education…education…education, fair enough she may collapse in the door at some point on January the 2nd with a 1000 yard stare and a vacant expression on her face whilst being barely able to walk but at least that’d be caused by the 24hrs+ dancefloor action……and possibly mdma abuse.Posted 4 years agoandybradSubscriber
I see where your coming from and i would be a little miffed as well. So i would embark on a little revenge shopping and book myself a weekend away somewhere in the summer (you can book it anything between now and the concert for max points usage) if she gets upset say well i was upset about missing out on nye with you so it will give me something to look forward to!
job done, next!Posted 4 years agoJunkyardMember
I would be over the moon i did not have to attend with her then i would e-mail somafunk
The real issue is she ignored your feelings about family and put her fun with her friends first. How pissed off you are about this is your call but I do think you have a bit of a point tbhPosted 4 years ago
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