if you call your significant other….
How long is a piece of string?
Just as there is no logic to her pissed offness there is no logic or reason to how long the said offness will last for.
Also, bear in mind whilst you may appear forgiven she may resurrect the subject at any point between now and when you are dearly departed and use it as evidence in any future row.
Danny BPosted 4 years agopiemonsterMember
Have you tried apologising? With sincerity?
I’ve tried this, many times. It’s not very effective by itself.
Normally calm returns with movement from both parties, one needs to recognise the insensitive comment. While the other needs to recognise they are being an over sensitive prat.Posted 4 years agob rMember
My wife has just said, I quote:
“if you are going to act like a teenager I will treat you like one – you’re not going MTBing until I feel you can be trusted again”
And the reason? Myself and a pal did a big ride yesterday where we got caught on time, not getting back until 10pm (both phones died). She’d gone out to friends at 6pm (which was already planned), and when I’d not texted her that we were back earlier, panicked and had called many friends plus local A&E…Posted 4 years agoJunkyardMember
So you think she was wrong to worry that you were not back on time and did not contact ? TBH the both our phones died etc does sound like what a teenager would say tbh
Under those circumstances I would expect them to be pissed off and happy that someone loved me enough to GAS when I was late and worry for me and I would not call it “panic” but concerned love.
As for the OP it would entirely depend on the circumstance – if said jokingly and she was sober not very long, if drunk just leave it till the morning if taken the wrong way [ ooer missus] and if said with meaning a VERY VERY long timePosted 4 years agoCougarSubscriber
I was once halfway through calling my OH a ‘clown’ when my internal dialogue thought “that’s a bit harsh.” In an attempt to verbally slam the brakes on on the fly and say something else, I managed to accidentally call her something else beginning with ‘C’. She didn’t speak to me for two days.Posted 4 years agoJunkyardMember
awesomePosted 4 years ago
I was at work and trying to stop swearing pre child one being born and self censored the f word and then said the c word so it went effing c word
Still at least she was not my partner and I bet persuading her of your reason for doing that was well received 😆brooessMember
I was at a friend’s birthday yesterday and all one guy could go on about was how much under the thumb he was and how much bollocking he got from his wife all the time. Struck me as utterly miserable… poor bugger. Assuming his take was an accurate reflection he sounded like he’d be better off outPosted 4 years agoWorldClassAccidentMember
Try the ‘Love it, change it, leave it’ line.
She chose to be with you so she want you to be you. If she doesn’t get that she is a thick pain in the arse and should shut the f!!k up!*
*only say this out loud when you are out of earshot and not being recorded. It won’t help but might make you feel betterPosted 4 years agoyunkiMember
she sounds like a pain in the arse, but maybe she is genuinely upset..
Try to empathise, and work out exactly where the hurt is coming from, try to understand your mistake and her pain, so that you can build from there and avoid hurting her again in the future..
Perhaps you should consider demonstrating some insight, and try starting the peace talks with something like..
‘truth hurts does it love..?’
FWIW I got a bit lost on the way home in my drunken state on friday (my birthday) and ended up round a mates drinking and talking crap ’til 8am.. I am firmly in the dog house for the forseeable futurePosted 4 years ago
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