someone i know is really struggling because they are immobilising themselves through what i would say is a hypersensitivity to pain, neurotic fear of illness and death, being ‘out of touch’ with the body/desires/appetites. the person just had a health scare which turned out to me nothing out of the ordinary, though hurts, and literally shut down, so a long term trend has become acute. this person is well on paper but is kind of wasting and shrinking, both in terms of not living life and the more medical sense. it is just a matter of time before inactivity is going to cause real issues i believe. the already existing issue is a kind of low level madness, i don’t say this jokingly.
how do i get this person managed help? i don’t think i can do it because when i try i get arguments, excuses, conveniently arising and quickly forgotten afflictions, judgements about gender, the list is endless. i don’t want to be in the role of coach, or worse dad, we are friends.