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  • Premier Icon scotroutes
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    Tell him you are happy he stuck up for his sister but you don’t really want him to go around lamping people.

    crikey
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    I wouldn’t deal with it by coming on here and making it a topic for a load of middle aged mountain bikers to argue over.

    Sort it out, you’re their Dad, it’s your job.

    havinalaff
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    Sit him down and tell him its not right to start a fight or pick on someone but looking after his sister was a good thing.

    33tango
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    Get the young lad into the local boxing club – he’s showing potential!

    Get the young lad into the local boxing club – he’s showing potential!

    He’s already at a tae kwon do club. I didnt see it, but he tells me he kicked the boy in the face.

    Get the young lad into the local political party – he’s showing potential!

    😉

    Rickos
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    I’d be off next door first to have a word.

    Junkyard
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    explain this sort of behaviour belongs in a zoo

    5thElefant
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    A firm handshake should suffice.

    Or, if you’re soft a pat on the back.

    crikey
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    explain this sort of behaviour belongs in a zoo

    Oooh, I wish I’d thought of that!

    Chapeau junkyard

    Premier Icon vinnyeh
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    Yes, just tried looking for that thread to see whether punches were really thrown at the zoo, but can’t find it.

    explain this sort of behaviour belongs in a zoo

    Of course it does.
    Tell him next time to stay out of it & let his sister get a good hiding so the 7yr old bully boy can think he can get away with it every time.

    No punches were thrown at the zoo. Merely a deflection.

    seavers
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    Tell him you are happy he stuck up for his sister but you don’t really want him to go around lamping people.

    Good old fashioned common sense innit. Also crikey has kinda nailed it in a harsh but fair way! 🙂

    I would be interested to know how you sorted it? Have you spoken to your son? The neighbors? What was the outcome?

    Premier Icon molgrips
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    Can you teach him sufficient self control to use just enough force to protect himself or his sister, but no more?

    One kick to the face would probably have been enough, or better still a shove or a hold. You are allowed to defend, but not retalliate.

    Premier Icon vinnyeh
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    One kick to the face would probably have been enough, or better still a shove or a hold. You are allowed to defend, but not retalliate.

    I just read that as ‘shovel’,

    TuckerUK
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    Buy him a congratulatory beer (but not lager obviously). And before anyone pipes up about ‘underage drinking’, the age limit is 5 years old.

    tinybits
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    I can’t see he did a whole lot wrong. I’d be happy if my boy went a bit ott in those circumstances.

    Junkyard
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    Of course it does.
    Tell him next time to stay out of it & let his sister get a good hiding so the 7yr old bully boy can think he can get away with it every time

    The OP had a fight in a zoo* hence the comment.

    The serious answer was given in the OP anyway and repeated by Scotsroutes

    *He is still rewriting it so lord knows what really happened.

    IanMunro
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    Could be a child’s face next time.

    Pigface
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    Junkyard very sharp, made me laugh.

    Aye – that Junkyard is as sharp as a mallet.

    Premier Icon nickc
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    I’d forgotten all about the incident “at the zoo”

    what a carry on

    7yr old next door neighbour punched my 3yr old daughter in the face and tried to start kicking her. My 6yr old son saw this and lamped the 7yr old – gave him a bit of a doing – there was blood.

    Deep down I’m happy that he stuck up for his sister, but dont really want him to go around lamping people.

    How would you deal with it?

    Went for the – “it’s good that you stuck up for your sister, but you need to remember that kicking folk in the face is only for tae kwon do” option.

    Premier Icon dannybgoode
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    My 2p’s worth – a 7 yo attacked a 3 yo and the 3 yo’s brother defended her.

    Perhaps explain that its ok to defend his sister in such situations but should try to avoid kicking 7 shades of poo out of the said attacker and wherever possible should avoid force all together.

    Also, perhaps get one of the tutors at the tae kwon do club to have a word with him and explain when its ok to use the skills he has learned.

    Cheers

    Danny B

    patriotpro
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    What’s there to deal with… Your lad nipped it in the bud in good fashion. Take him out and treat him.

    seavers
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    Take him out and treat him.

    Come on guy, that is at best a short sighted way to deal with it. Rewarding a child of 7 for being violent can only endorse such action in the future.

    He needs to know that helping his sister was right but a violent reaction is wrong.

    I should probably add that this is a working class housing estate near to where Trainspotting was set.

    Premier Icon dannybgoode
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    A violent reaction is wrong if there are other options. However, if the lad needed stopping quickly as he was about to boot a 3 year old in the face / body whatever then a swift slap may be necessary…

    seavers
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    then a swift slap may be necessary…

    But by all accounts from the OP, it was not a swift slap. It was a beating that drew blood.

    I think that when dealing someone so young, 7 years old you should teach restraint. They are at the stage when they are growing and learning about boundaries. Someone older might be able to distinguish between a situation where they need to ‘slap’ or simply stand between the child who is trying to kick a little girl.

    Edit…I just don’t thing it is wise to encourage a slap fist mentality in someone so young.

    Premier Icon jimmy
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    I should probably add that this is a working class housing estate near to where Trainspotting was set

    leave some craft beer for the parents, things’ll soon turn around.

    taxi25
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    A 7yr old punches a 3yr old girl in the face and then goes to put the boot in !!! I don’t care how tough an estate it is alarm bells should be flashing big time. The op’s son was defending his sister no problem there.

    bigyinn
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    Your boy did nothing wrong. He deserves praise for looking out for his little sister. I think I’d be having a little chat with the 7yo’s parents.

    Fair play. He nipped it in the bud. It won’t happen again.
    Tell him he done good for looking after his sister.

    You take sh1t you be given sh1t, and he’s not taking any for his crew!

    Chapeau!

    SB
    EDIT – re your title “How should I deal with this?”….don’t worry, you boy already took care of things!!!

    The 7yr olds parents saw it all going on and simply said to their son that if they go about picking on little girls they will more often than not end up with their head in their hands. To be fair on them it was all over very quickly and they had no time to react to their kid hitting my daughter before my son waded in.

    Premier Icon DezB
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    Nobody mentions that the sister might have deserved it…

    ( 😉 in case anyone, well you know)

    Neil F
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    He did nowt wrong in my eyes, if its bothering you then go speak to the neighbours, take the kids with you. Maybe get them all to shake hands and make them understand that its finished with?

    Nobody mentions that the sister might have deserved it…

    If beating him in a bike race counts as deserving it then she probably did deserve it.

    crikey
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    You could tell the recalcitrant child that you’ll send him to live in England.

    That should be enough. ..

    I think they’ve just moved from there judging by their accents.

    Premier Icon DezB
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    If beating him in a bike race counts as deserving it then she probably did deserve it.

    Humiliated the poor boy then!

    Premier Icon bobmac892
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    I have kids of a similar age I think the wee fella did well sticking up for his sister but yeah bringing in a lesson about restraint and not going OTT is just common sense. The lesson sandwiched between praise so as not to emphasise any any one aspect too strongly.

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