How long to wait (novice attempted dating content)?
Right, I’m new to all of this dating / meeting new people malarkey, having fairly recently come out of a 9 year relationship.
Here’s the story:
Went for a works night out on Thursday. Got chatting to one of the girls behind the bar.
She was about to finish work for the night, so I asked if she’d like to hang around and have a drink with me.
She hung around. We had a couple of drinks and a chat; and I ended up leaving with her phone number.
I texted her the following morning, saying “great to meet you, I’d like to see you again, give me a call”.
So that was Friday, now it’s Monday and no response.
How long do I wait? And once I’ve waited, what do I do? Is there any follow up, or do I write it off as a lost cause?Posted 5 years ago
Wait. Otherwise you seem too desparate. In a couple of weeks pop back to the bar, say hi whilst ordering a drink, watch for the recognition but walk off with the booze. If she wants to she’ll initiate the next move. *
* disclaimer – been out of circulation since 1998.Posted 5 years agofootflapsSubscriber
It’s only definitely a lost cause if you give up, nought to lose by trying again, worst case she still ignores you. I’d wait a couple of days then send another text.
NB After such a long time in a relationship you should treat the first few dates as just practice, as you’ll probably need it….Posted 5 years agonealgloverMember
Here’s an idea, why not call her? You know, speak to her on the telephone.
Was going to say exactly the same thing.
Texting is fine, no problem with it at all, but people seem to have forgotten that the “text machine” can also be used a telephone when the need arises.Posted 5 years agounklehomeredSubscriber
This is why I HATE text in these situations and desperately try avoid it the early stages of seeing someone until you know each other a little bit and the anxiety fades. With no immediate feedback its just something to worry about, always better to ring.
Unk (single forever so you may not want to listen)Posted 5 years agoononeorangeSubscriber
My own approach to this in my pre-married days would have been just to go into the bar and stare crazily / desperately while attempting to make rubbish jokes and possibly dribbling a bit.
Can’t promise it’ll work (it never did for me) but I have no other suggestions when it comes to “dating”.Posted 5 years agobowie278Member
Wait. Otherwise you seem too desparate. In a couple of weeks pop back to the bar, say hi whilst ordering a drink, watch for the recognition but walk off with the booze. If she wants to she’ll initiate the next move.
Yeah, this is what I would say, act completely nonchalant if you see her again and see what she comes back with. Sounds daft but the old saying, “treat ’em mean, keep ’em keen” actually makes sense. But I don’t mean go to the bar and trip her up if she’s carrying a tray of drinks…
Ah, I see. My mistake. Txt hr, thn, “UR DUMPD! Looooolllz”
Flashheart, this got me laughing!Posted 5 years ago
cbike – Member
CFH is correct, You never know till you find out. When you do either way, dont hang about. carpe diem and all that.
Good advice, so with that in mind, any female stw’ers fancy a shag? I’m getting a bit desperate and the wife’s not in the mood lately. 😉Posted 5 years agocloudnineSubscriber
Think of somewhere you can take her (gig, comedy show etc) but keep it quite last minute.. phone her and ask her straight up but enthusiastically to come with you. It will be very hard to say no unless she really doesnt want to. If she says no and gives a reason just tell her outright that you like her and would love to take her out sometime and to call you when shes free otherwise you’ll start stalking her her.Posted 5 years ago
Dont be afraid.. she can only say no.TuckerUKMember
If she was interested, she’d have replied (even just to be polite). Don’t mistake being personable/social with being keen on you.
Remember, what you do with this lady may not stay with this lady, maybe she knows your next prospective date.
There are millions of ladies out there, move on.Posted 5 years agoadjustablewenchMember
I could lend you an epilator if you want to make the name last longer on your chest – you would be in a whole world of pain though – which may show her how keen (desperate) you are
Or at the very least the pain would distract you whilst you get over the fact she’s not interested
Jeez just read that back and it sounded harsh – was trying to be funny 🙂Posted 5 years ago
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