- Help Recalibrate My Moral Compass
I find I’m becoming less and less tolerant of drivel I hear from people, particularly on Facebook
I can think of an easy solution to the Facebook bit. Becoming more tolerant is quite a bit harder and I’m not sure from the general tone of your post you’re ready to commit to the effort required.Posted 3 years ago
how can I become more tolerant of this sort of crap???
Have you considered empathy?
There’s people I knew who died a long time ago and sometimes I think about them when something triggers a memory.
I don’t chose to shout about it on social media but I understand why someone would feel like that after 21 years and whilst their way of expressing it wouldn’t be mine I also wouldn’t think ‘silly bint’ and de-friend them as a result of reading it.Posted 3 years ago
Perhaps you should have a loved one die, see how that feels 20 years later?
Bizarrely, the overwhelming majority of humans – myself included – lose our loved ones. It’s down to the fact that our parents, grandparents, and lots of other relatives are all a little bit older than us. So, statistically, they’re going to slip those surly bonds before us.
I’ve lost lots of relatives, and I’ll probably lose lots more, but I don’t post shite like that on Facebook 20-odd years later! Or ever for that matter!Posted 3 years agoloddrikMember
My mum died 25 years ago in July from cancer. She was 36, I was 16. She suffered more than I thought possible. I miss her, but the pain went a long long time ago. The post listed above on Facebook is obviously just rhetoric put forward to illicit public sympathy and come across as a wounded person who clearly cares about such things more than you or I, and we couldn’t possible ever feel such grief and tragedy as they’ve been through. If someone genuinely hasn’t gotten over a death 20 years later, I strongly advise some sort of counselling.
The wife is Greek, when there is a death in their family all the women engage in very public and extended displays of grief, dressing in black for a year blah blah blah. All clearly intended to show they that person grieves far more then the next. It’s ridiculous. It’s one thing to feel the pain of loss, the need to express it publicly is quite different altogether.Posted 3 years ago
I set fire to the flowers on those little shrines that appear by the side of the road, to mark the death of a car thief in a police chases
Not if I see it first! Don’t get me started on floral tributes… Why do chavs gaffer tape garage-forecourt flowers to the lamppost after some 15-year-old pot-smoking scrote loses control of his moped because his waist-band is round his knees?? The only flowers he ever liked were dried, crumbled and wrapped in Rizlas!!Posted 3 years agopondoMember
I don’t chose to shout about it on social media but I understand why someone would feel like that after 21 years and whilst their way of expressing it wouldn’t be mine.
See, the thing is, I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t be the sort of thing you’d stand in the street and shout, and I’m also reasonably sure you wouldn’t say it to a stranger in a pub (well – maybe you would after a few jars). But then – maybe that’s what social media’s about, saying the things in public you wouldn’t say in private?
I think what I’m trying to say is, I don’t know.Posted 3 years agoD0NKSubscriber
Public displays of grief don’t really do it for me either but I don’t get riled by them, chill out and move on (OP not the bereaved)
Dunno how the thread shifted onto it but I don’t like roadside floral tributes either, if it’s an aforementioned car thief who died in a police chase then I’m not sure they’re appropriate. If I ever get mowed down by a clueless driver I certainly don’t want flowers at the bloody roadside commemorating it. I don’t want a dangerous junction being a reminder of my life. I do think there should be a macabre skull and cross bones or similar roadsign put up for all to see at the location of every road death, might remind a few road users to concentrate a bit more.
Don’t think empathy is a weakness tho, wish I had a bit more empathy TBH. Surely “empathy=weakness” marks you out as a bit of a sociopath?Posted 3 years agoD0NKSubscriber
Ghost bike would be my choice.
dunno, possibly, but like I said every road death should be highlighted not just cyclists.
I blame Princess Diana
well you’ve finally said something I can relate to.
I presume you mean the diana death media tossfest rather than the person. Quite what sparked it all off I’ve no idea, maybe a cabal of florists infiltrated the media and instigated the public grief competition.Posted 3 years ago
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