Really sorry to vent about this, but don’t have anyone to talk to and this is all getting to me a bit.
Our neighbour was convicted last year of touching two teenage girls inappropriately during an outdoor activity weekend. The actual event took place about four years ago and last year he was sentenced to community service and put on the sex offender register for a year. I’ve known the man for about 14yrs and he’s spoken to me openly about his conviction. I believe him when he says he’s been the victim of two malicious teenagers who were trying to get at his youngest daughter via him. Furthermore, I’ve spoken to his daughter (now at Uni), who says she was bullied mercilessly through high school by these two same teenagers and she backs up her father’s story. She was even present when one of the alleged incidents took place. Nevertheless, the local Sheriff court found my neighbour guilty.
That’s the background, now to the events of the last two days.
Apparently things kicked off a couple of days ago with a family (mum, dad, baby in buggy and four year old) parading up and down the street in front of our building (we’re in a semi adjoining the neighbour), yelling at the top of their voices that a ‘Paedo’ lived here. My wife says that the father was even encouraging his four year old to join in. Last night I got home from work (a two hour commute away), to find my wife in the back of the house because there was a crowd of about 20 people, adults and teenagers, standing out front, at the edge of the trees directly across from us, just staring at our home. She’d even locked the cat flap so our pets couldn’t get out, she was that worried about the flat faced, tattooed zombies standing in front our our home. There were two police officers at our neighbours front gate and police cars cruising around an estate that normally doesn’t see a police car from one year to the next. Eventually the crowd swelled to maybe 30-40 people, then I think the police moved them on, possibly because we’d driven to the supermarket and on returning my wife hit the car horn and wasn’t too careful as she swung through the crowd blocking the road and into our driveway. Of course, that wasn’t the end of it. There was a constant stream of cars driving up to our house with people hanging out the windows pointing at our building and then when it got later, the missiles started getting hurled from within the trees across the road from us. I nearly shat myself when something hit the iron guttering above our front window, my wife thinks it was a golf ball. After that, I went out and flagged down one of the police vans and told them what had happened and that we were feeling harassed and intimidated in our own home. The police officer I spoke to said that the folk were all “Unemployed arseholes with nothing better to do but spread rumours on facebook”, and that they’d get bored in a day or two and move on. Apparently there has been a rash of these intimidation tactics in our area recently. One of which led to an 85yr old lady having ‘Beast’ sprayed on her front door because the attackers had gotten the wrong address. He also warned me that the same folk had said they were coming back today. Now, as far as I’m concerned, the police have done a good job of controlling things, but they obviously can’t do anything unless they catch someone in the act. I didn’t want to go to work this morning, but my wife insisted because I think she’s worried that I’ll lose my rag and do something stupid. Which seems to be precisely what the crowd of braying monkeys outside our house want, even though it’s not directed at us. I spoke to another neighbour last night who lives a few doors up from us and witnessed the things being thrown at our house. He was raging and his wife and daughter are terrified that he’s going to deck someone and end up being arrested.
This is so shit, my wife’s at home alone, supposedly enjoying the school holidays but in reality stuck in the house with the phone besides her ready to call the police and I’m at work…doing nothing.. because all I can think about is going home and taking a swing at some drooling, uneducated arsehole, from god knows where because none of them are local, that’s standing outside our home leering in the windows. All I can think to do is speak to the police tonight (if the same thing occurs), and tell them I’m feeling threatened and harassed and want to report it. Would the police be forced to act and move the crowd on then?
I’m actually feeling a bit sick, I’m so angry and frustrated and worried. It’s so shit and unfair.Posted 2 years ago
What a horrible situation not of your making.
Surely if possible the right thing to do is take a few days off work and get away for a while until they move on. Nothing to be gained by continuing to witness it. If your neighbour really is innocent that sounds like a terrible position to be in too. A proper life ruining position.Posted 2 years ago
That seems a pretty crap situation but from your account the police are dealing with it well and, as they say, hopefully the mob will soon bore of it and move on.
Could you speak to your employers and ask for a last minute bit of leave and just go away for the weekend whilst things calm down?Posted 2 years ago
^Jinx 🙂Posted 2 years ago
Holy shit, that’s awful. I take it this crowd of morons knows it’s not you?Posted 2 years ago
How loud is your stereo?
I’m guessing they don’t like PucciniPosted 2 years ago
You need to infiltrate the crowd. Join them, find the ringleaders, tell them about another kiddy fiddler in the next town, get them to move there.Posted 2 years ago
I take it this crowd of morons knows it’s not you?
This I suspect might be the real issue, if the OP kicks off or shouts at them or whatever, to your average shit kicker they’re not going to think “I bet we’ve made this Guy’s life hell because of his neighbour” they going to just assume you’re a Nonse, because if anyone, ever, says perhaps she shouldn’t string someone up from the nearest lamppost at the mere accusation of it, you should immediately have your hard drive searched, whilst they find another lamppost, well, if they even bother to check the address.Posted 2 years ago
What is sad about this is that you need to justify the guys guilt or innocence. That really is nobodys buisnesss but the courts, the victim and the accused. The law has dealt with him, that is what it is for, we cannot have mob justice. The mob seem to think that they are providing a service in terms of extra punishment other than the sentence laid down. These arseholes are basically taking the law into their own hands.Posted 2 years ago
Our society needs help.
Yes – I would be taking the family away for a week for an impromptu holiday. The situation sucks – but discretion is the better part of valour. By removing yourself from the situation, you make things no worse for your neighbour. Mebbe just check the house insurance is fully paid-up before you leave.Posted 2 years ago
I guess the trouble with going away is that you feel you aren’t protecting your own home and leaving it open to potential damage. I don’t think I could relax going away knowing that people are pelting things at your house.
Horrible situation to be in 🙁Posted 2 years ago
Set up your phone in the window & record them?Posted 2 years ago
Get CFH round with his air gun
Posted 2 years ago
If this was India and they were using WhatsApp then there would have been some deaths by now…Posted 2 years ago
Bombers, obvs….Posted 2 years ago
Blimey, this is awful. I don’t know what else to say other than that I hope your wife and family are okay and that the Police are monitoring the situation, I genuinely feel for you.Posted 2 years ago
That is properly rubbish, i really do feel for you and your family.
You cant rationalise their behavior or reason with them because (frankly) the coppers explanation is spot on.
Can the police offer any help with crime prevention type stuff, CCTV, panic alarms or anything else?
A general theme with neighbor issues seems to be to move. Seems drastic and probably not an option but it does seem like your estate is not a great place to be.Posted 2 years ago
Sounds like you’ve a lot of shoes that need weeing inPosted 2 years ago
Time for the minigun I’m afraidPosted 2 years ago
Whats your water pressure like? Hose the ****!!
Seriously though, get your self home. I wouldn’t be at work if that was happening to me/my wife/my house.Posted 2 years ago
I really feel for the OP and his neighbour. Basically this whole incident is rooted in lies and rumours. I’m intrigued to know why it has suddenly flared up again, given he was convicted last year?
OP please don’t confront the mob of cretins, you won’t be able to reason with them and you’ll just end up getting a kicking. Let the police deal with them.
Much as escaping seems tempting, I’d be wary of going away leaving the house empty, morons like that will happily trash your home to get at him if they know you’re not going to be there. How about you stay there and the rest of your family go away for the weekend to stay with family?Posted 2 years ago
Just had a message from my wife saying that things are quiet at the moment, and a police car has been round this morning to check on things. We’ve lived here for over 20 yrs and it’s a lovely area with really great neighbours who look out for each other. No-one I spoke to recognised any of the people who were out in front of the house last night.
I’m taking the wife out for a meal tonight and we’re actually going on holiday at the weekend so hopefully it’ll all be over when we return, but it still doesn’t take away from the horrible feeling of helplessness at the hands of a braying mob. Our neighbour, who took his punishment and thought he could move on is now being held captive in his house with his wife and youngest daughter. All of us are at the mercy of this lynch mob of barely sentient oxygen thieves who think they are doing a public service by intimidating everyone in the street.
I’ve spoken to my boss and she’s agreeing with my wife that maybe I shouldn’t go home early and confront them, arms windmilling. My last fight was in 1984 with Colin Smith in 2nd year of high school when he tried to bully me. I think it ended with me sitting on him and screeching in a half broken voice to leave me the **** alone. I’m not a fighter, I abhor confrontation, but I hate bullies and I detest this feeling of being utterly powerless to stop anything.Posted 2 years ago
All of us are at the mercy of this lynch mob of barely sentient oxygen thieves who think they are doing a public service
You’re wrong here mate. There’s no thinking involved.
No point fighting them – for one thing, the cops will probably arrest you. Scum like them always get away with whatever they like (the self appointed vigilantes, not the cops!).Posted 2 years ago
Ring the police, tell them you saw a gun and a few knives, hopefully some of them will receive a couple of bullets to the chest when the firearms plod come storming out of their vans.
Anyway, Brexit Britain for you – the plebs know better than the elites (anyone who is vaguely educated) – lynchings will go hand in hand with that attitude.Posted 2 years ago
Send your daughter out to walk through the crowd, brushing past one of the ringleaders, and then have her loudly complain that he touched her innappropriately, and threaten to ring the police.
She if she can get the rest of the crowd to turn on him.
Make sure your wife videos it 🙂Posted 2 years ago
TurnerGuy gives excellent advice! 😆Posted 2 years ago
that really is an awful situation to be in… I hope for you guys that they get bored and don’t return tonight.
I’m impressed you’ve kept your cool.
+1 for bombersPosted 2 years ago
lure them away with cans of stella and benson n’ hedges, make a trail down to the canal a la pied piper.Posted 2 years ago
I would definitely get a camera filming in case something kicks off, I’d also take photos of the crowd and post them on Facebook. Def avoid a confrontation, half of them are probably cage fighters/kick boxers anyhow. Maybe buy some stink bombs or NovichokPosted 2 years ago
I would get back in touch with the police if it continues to be an issue.
Sounds to me like a genuine case of breach of the peace – the mob are causing you and other residents fear and alarm, and not unreasonably so.
Unfortunately the sort of people you’re dealing with won’t be bothered by a conviction (edit – if it’s in Scotland), but it’s all you can do really.Posted 2 years ago
Another message from my wife to say that the family returned to their house briefly this morning and packed their bags. They’re staying somewhere else because someone has threatened to torch the house with all of them in it.
Apparently someone has just been to fit a ‘firebox’ to their letter box.
Just now, got another message, the woman who was threatening to firebomb our building has been arrested by the police.
So that’s someone been arrested….all because of an internet based rumour mill. I wonder if this woman who was threatening to burn our neighbour’s house down spared one moment of thought that their might be other people next door, happily getting along with their life?
This is seriously doing my head in.Posted 2 years ago
Is this in Denny by any chance? Various people I know in that area seem to be posting on facebook threads for something very similar to this.Posted 2 years ago
****ing idiots. There was a story a few years back about a doctor who was chased out of her home because these dimwits didn’t know the difference between a paedophile and a paediatrician.
In the hospital where I work we’re not allowed to use “the p word” to describe the “childrens’s ward” because some half-wit might kick offPosted 2 years ago
Other side of the river from Denny, but yes Steve, I expect it’s the same story. Are any of your facebook ‘ have-a-go-hero friends threatening to burn our building down while we sleep? Would you mind passing their names onto me or the Police?Posted 2 years ago
beagy – we both have a pal who can advise you here…Posted 2 years ago
There was a story a few years back about a doctor who was chased out of her home because these dimwits didn’t know the difference between a paedophile and a paediatrician.
Paulsgrove, Hants. Definitely not a lovely areaPosted 2 years ago
What a shitty situation for you and your neighbour. Wish I could offer some positive advice to you. Good on you for keeping your cool is all I can say. I’d have got myself arrested / beaten to death by now. Hope the pricks move on soon.Posted 2 years ago
Other side of the river from Denny, but yes Steve, I expect it’s the same story. Are any of your facebook ‘ have-a-go-hero friends threatening to burn our building down while we sleep? Would you mind passing their names onto me or the Police?
I’ll need to find the facebook posts but I don’t think the posts were from anyone I know – possibly the posts might have been in a Denny High school related group I’m a member of. Certainly the standard of the spelling would indicate it probably wasn’t people I know…
I don’t recall seeing anyone threatening to burn the place down but did see posts about folks getting in front of the house to make some kind of protest yesterday evening.Posted 2 years ago
here was a story a few years back about a doctor who was chased out of her home because these dimwits didn’t know the difference between a paedophile and a paediatrician.
Just had a check on Facebook and looks like the posts were from a group I’m not a member of, but shared by a couple of folks that I know (although doesn’t look like they were themselves posting).Posted 2 years ago
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