- Getting married and asking for cash instead of a present
Lad I work with just got married and got a LOT of cash and hardly any presents. I think most people who will be attending your wedding will know you well enough to figure out that you’re a big boy and will already have a toaster/set of pans/disgusting silver plate picture frame.Posted 4 years agojohndohMember
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We asked for a contribution to our honeymoon. So basically cash dressed as something slightly different.
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We did that too – and made it clear it was a once in a lifetime trip and themed the wedding tables around it (named after African animals as we went on safari).Posted 4 years agosingletrackmindMember
If you want to piss people off ask for cash
If you want to really piss people off do it in badly rhymed poem
If you want to disassociate yourself from evryone you know have a’wishing well’ for people to drop their cash donations into
Or just ask for Argos or Travel Agent vouchers ftwPosted 4 years agoBreganteSubscriber
My brother in law Is a composer and he has been saving for a new piano for literally years. When they got married they put all their savings on a sizeable down payment and all the guests were asked if they would like to contribute to it. Personally I think that was a great idea.Posted 4 years agoleffeboySubscriber
I think it’s a brilliant idea. With folks getting married later already with a load of stuff it makes great sense. Close relatives can be allowed to get you what they want but everyone else can chip in. A good solution is often to get the best man/bridemaid to handle telling people as it usually goes down better. Personally I love the idea
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Wrong – we got loads of contributions to a tandem. Brilliant gift we would probably never have got ourselves and it is still going strongPosted 4 years agoRamsey NeilMember
It seems to be a modern phenomenon which I think is really tacky and pretty vulgar and it pissed me off even more that the only wedding I have ever been to where they asked for cash as a present there was no follow on letter of thanks and it just felt as though the couple had pocketed the money with no idea of who had given and how much they had given . I am a pretty miserable , over 50 year old git though , so perhaps my comments are slightly out of touchPosted 4 years agoalpinMember
I figure if someone can afford/wants to spunk upwards of 10k on “the best day of our lives” then they don’t need fifty quid from me.
Last wedding I attended I gave 20€ and asked for it to be given to a charity both the bride and groom had worked for in Uganda.
The two before that I gave nothing. As I says, it they’re spunking 10-35(!)k on a wedding I assume that they’ve got enough cash to afford a holiday or Wedgwood set without me having to chip in. If they haven’t, then more fool them.Posted 4 years agoNorthwindSubscriber
I don’t think it’s any worse than a wedding list tbh. Though having said that I’m on the fence about the wedding list, as grim a thing as it is, it saves a lot of thought.
Mate of mine had a cunning plan- instead of gifts, they asked for donations to a favourite charity. The cunning part is, after the wedding he said “Right, that’s my karma account well in the black, I’m never donating to charity again”.Posted 4 years ago
We did, but that’s beacuse we were moving to Australia in a month’s time and it’s a damned sight easier to carry than a 48 piece crockery set. Our friends who were soon to move off Guernsey had the same motivation at their wedding.
Basically something along the lines of “we don’t want presents because of xyz, however if you feel you want to provide a gift, money towards abc would be very appreciated”Posted 4 years agofreeagentMember
I have a bit of an issue with Wedding lists, mostly because people just put thoughtless tat on them (had a list a few years back that had a kitchen bin on it)
However I also think asking for cash is slightly taking the p*ss.
I also think giving people a free reign can be scary, as you’ll end up with a load of sh*t you don’t even like.
When we got married we asked people to send donations to the local kids hospice, or to donate to a charity of their choice. No idea how much it raised, but it meant we didn’t end up with loads of vases and toasters we didn’t want/like.Posted 4 years agofootflapsSubscriber
Is it ok to ask for cash as opposed to getting clocks ,tea sets and george forman grills.
In my opinion no. If you can afford a fancy wedding you shouldn’t be asking for cash and if you can’t afford a fancy wedding, you certainly shouldn’t be having one.
The only exception would be if the couple are very young and just starting out, in which case I wouldn’t mind helping them out with setting up a home etc as long as the wedding was appropriately modest….
We went to wedding recently where the B&G had spent £30k on a very posh set up and were asking for cash for the honeymoon. We didn’t give any as it just seemed ridiculous, they could have just spent less and funded their own honeymoon.Posted 4 years agolittlemisspandaMember
I’m not sure on this one. I think vouchers is better – if people are not buying “a thing” then they tend to want to know how the money they are putting in is going to benefit the couple, and not just get spunked in the pub.
Last couple of weddings I went to the couples asked for cash towards their honeymoon. OH and I didn’t put anything in, simply because it cost us to travel to attend these weddings, stay over in a hotel etc, we couldn’t afford to fork out on top of that. We explained it to the bride and groom and they were fine with it. The last wedding we went to OH was an usher, had been on the expensive overseas stag do, paid for his own suit hire, we’d paid for the travel, hotel room etc, so we just couldn’t afford to spend any more on it. So if you are going to ask for cash, be prepared that some people may not be able to afford to contribute in that way.Posted 4 years ago
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