- General "my life sucks" rant
Having had depression and gone through the family courts twice in the past I can begin to imagine how hard it can be.
Lads look happy little scamps and they have a great Dad.
One day you may well look back on these times as having created an even stronger bond between you and the boys. Between themselves too.
All the best for the future bud!Posted 1 year ago
Thanks again guys, they are great pair of boys and keep me busy!
I also have a dog to keep me company when im on my own which honestly I think helps as well even if he does eat my pillows.
My other motive for posting the picture is because stuff like that made me realise how much weight I put on, I was 18 when I met the boys mother and weighed about 12.5-13 Stone then after a few years of work and having kids I was hovering around 16, since we split up and my head hasn’t been in a good place ive ended up at over 17! which I only realised when weighing myself for the first time in ages a few days ago, so it was a bit of a wake up call that I am responsible for my boys and I need to be around as long as possible so Im making a big effort to get back to a much healthier weight.Posted 1 year ago
Ill try and get the kids to make a list tomorrow.
Someone has very kindly offered me their old PS3 so if that is happening maybe some games for that?
I might have to spend all of tomorrow in court depending how long it lasts but will hopefully be back for when they finish school (my brother is on standby if not as doesnt have college in fridays) so they can have a look.Posted 1 year agoTreksterSubscriber
Have you thought about volunteering somewhere during school hours? Maybe become a school TA?? Charity shop etc…Posted 1 year ago
Not in the same position but retirement is looming and I am seriously considering where and what I can do as a volunteer. Not quite ready to stop work but physically cannot go on much longer doing what I do(manual job)loweyMember
Good luck to you mate. Your commitment to your kids will pay dividends for the rest of your natural. Bloody good on you for keeping it all together for them. They will grow up a credit to you I’m certain.
Keep on keeping on mate. When your going through hell….. Keep going.Posted 1 year agoI_did_dabSubscriber
You might want to call into Newport Debt Center. CAP are experts in dealing with difficult financial and family situations, and give practical and emotional support as well as financial advice. Don’t be put off by the “Christians” bit, you don’t have to have any faith for them to help.Posted 1 year agomartinhutchMember
It sounds to me like your GP is being a ****
Try and get yourself an appointment with Citizens Advice. One of the advisors will be able to talk you through what you are entitled to from a benefits point of view. They will also usually write to your GP asking them to do the letter without the ridiculous fee.
Also, the maximum that can be charged for records held 100% electronically (which many practices are now) is a tenner. So worth checking with the practice manager.
It may be that the court would be prepared to accept these rather than a signed letter from a doctor.Posted 1 year agotrailwaggerMember
This is the first time I have dipped into this thread and I am blown away by the generosity of people who`s only connection is an internet forum. Bravo STW.
To the OP, I went through a similar situation about ten years ago. It felt like my entire world had collapsed at the time. But I can promise you that things will get easier/better in time. Focus on your kids but don’t forget about yourself, you need to look after number one, the rest will follow.
If you pm me your address I have some ps3 games I can post to you.Posted 1 year ago
Thanks for all the messages again guys.
Court didn’t go as planned today, was supposed to be a final hearing but the person who compiled the report from social services (that recommend the kids stay with me) has been off sick and already delayed things once.
So the judge has ordered someone else to do another report which means I will be back in court at least another 2 times and not until next year. So things remain as they are for now which is ok but I just wanted things to be a bit more final by now…Posted 1 year ago
Same agreement in place for now I have them for all but 7hours of the week. Which means I have them Christmas day 🙂
This will be in place until Feb/march have to try and get my legal aid reassess now as I was willing to pay for 1 month but another 4 is taking the piss a bit (they “calculated” I can afford £90 a month) although having a barrister today would have cost me £1000s without it :0Posted 1 year agoJolly Green GiantMember
I don’t often comment on threads on here but everyone’s reaction is really heart warming.Posted 1 year ago
I’ve been through a divorce and a bout of anxiety/depression a couple of years ago when I lost my job so can very much sympathise with you.
You mentioned you have gained weight and would like to get in shape. As well as being a keen cyclist I started running in February this year . In that time I’ve shifted nearly 3 stone and like cycling it’s very therapeutic. I joined a local club and also set up a Facebook group to set up local group runs. I often run with up to 10 others and have made a lot of new friends as well as the more obvious benefits of losing weight and improving my fitness. I am running my first half marathon in a week’s time. The improvement in my self belief has also been a massive benefit.
Not saying that running is the answer but just putting this out there as an idea.
Anyway all the best and hope you get on your feet again soon.
Let us know if you need anything for your lads. As well as toys and games maybe we could donate clothes or shoes that our kids have grown out of?
Let us know your PayPal details too.
Thanks for the offer Poolman but I dont watch DVDs learnt a while ago discs dont last long when kids are around!
Jolly Green Giant – Thanks for the tips, I certainly may look at running once I have started to shift a few pounds.
Im doing ok at managing to buy things like clothes etc and my family are all getting things like that for them for xmas but thanks to all your donations I will be able to get them some more “want” stuff rather than just need.Posted 1 year agoBunnyhopMember
Wiggles – I think you’re doing an amazing job holding everything together.
Could I also commend you for not bad mouthing your ex to your children.
Someone mentioned the foodbank. Please get yourself signed up. You are the very person who should be benefitting from this. At this time of year the public are generous and give treats as well as the basic foods.
Also have you thought about becoming a mobile bike mechanic? (Even working from home).
Good luck.Posted 1 year ago
I have registered with a foodbank for the times I need it, I have done a few jobs here and there fixing bikes for friends etc but I dont have anywhere to work on them (live in a maisonette above a shop) and would cost a huge amount to set up properly with the tools etc and I honestly think you would have to work a lot more hours than I can manage to turn a profit in that business.
The kids have added a few things to the amazon list now for anyone interested, I have already been and bought some spare batteries etc for the RC cars I bought them so they can spend a bit longer using them without waiting for chargers at christmas which I certainly wouldnt have had the spare cash to do without everyones donations 🙂Posted 1 year agorockhopper70Member
Wiggles, I have a Micro Scalextric set that I was hoping to sell but if you want if for your boys for Christmas drop me a line and I’ll ship into to you.Posted 1 year ago
I’ve been on the receiving end of the generosity of members of this forum so I’m very happy to help you out, if it helps.
It’s quite a small set up, far far faaaaaar less space needed than a regular set.
Cops and robbers too!tinybitsMember
Can’t belive the list is empty already, I’m too slow! if you look into my posting history, you’ll see a certain love of whisky. If you put an odd bottle of something like that on your Amazon list, it’s clearly not for your kids, but I’d be very happy to send one over!Posted 1 year ago
This place drives me bloody spare sometimes, full of arguing idiots. Then you get a thread like this. Gives you a little bit of hope.
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