Accept that whatever you take with you, it’s a compromise. There will always be something you *could* have taken that would make things a bit easier, and you will always take stuff you didn’t use – on this holiday.
Store your stuff so you’re ready to go. Get a couple of see thru plastic storage boxes for all your utensils, gas cannisters etc so you can shove it all in the car really easily. Reduce the admin.
Take the minimum you can get away with whilst still being comfortable and warm. e.g. a single burning stove might be light but not the easiest when cooking for 4.
You can have a great holiday without fold away cupboards, windbreak, fairy lights, blow up sofa, supersized BBQ.
Avoid fancy overly designed ‘space saving’ things like camping tables and storage cupboards that you have to build onsite. Get simple stuff or go without.
We’ve got a family tent and all the gear but I’ve also bought two cheap mountain tents and for weekends we go quite basic. Less admin, more time doing fun stuff.