- Falling in love – with the “wrong” person
OK, STW, lets have your “i fell for an completely inappropriate person and it was a total disaster” stories to make me feel better, as i’m claiming a world record here, having just had a bit of a “head of heals” moment for a woman nearly half my age, who lives 6250 miles away from me……
(it’s not a mid liufe crisis i promise……)
#oldenoughtoknowbetter 😉Posted 1 month agoslackaliceSubscriber
Sounds like a cathexis to me – or put it another way, an object of desire. Or as above, ‘lust’.
Define ‘love’ please OP. And how are you with the thought of starting a family? At your age? 😉
Either way, she’s more than likely got father /paternal issues, hence the possible attraction for an older man.
Fill yer boots but don’t commit yourself, would be my strategy/advice.Posted 1 month agonorthernsoulSubscriber
If that’s e.g. Canada, then it’s a win win if you visit. My wife lived in Auckland for 2 years before we were married (we got engaged whilst she was still living there though, and I was in the UK). I had 2 great trips there, got to see her obvs but also did tours of N and S islands. Some special memories. As for the age thing, if you click then you click, there are lots of great relationships between older and younger partners, plus some bad ones, but you could say the same thing where the ages are similar.Posted 1 month agomolgripsSubscriber
I find it hard to comprehend falling love with someone 6250 miles away. Sounds like lust to me.
Lust? You can’t be properly sexually attracted to someone over the internet. You can however fall in love easily with the right person because all you can do is talk, and that’s the basis of a sound relationship. If you talk long enough you know someone’s right for you.Posted 1 month agoOwenPSubscriber
Not much help for the OP here yet!
I can’t help either, but it made me remember the entertainment of this STW relationship thread:
Might help, might not. 🙂Posted 1 month agostwhannahSubscriber
OK, you still beat me but I’m on 4702 miles, a 15 year age gap, and I’m totally in love. I’d have called bullshit if anyone had told me this a couple a years ago, but there it is. As long as you don’t go bankrupt buying plane tickets or do anything stupid like getting married and leaving yourself open to having your assets claimed by someone who isn’t what you thought they were, what’s the problem? Grab happiness where you find it, be grateful for it, if it doesn’t work out, be grateful for what you had.Posted 1 month ago
We know how roughly how old the OP is so his young Thai bridde to be maybe is definitely young enough to be his daughter.
Still, whatever you feel comfortable with OP. It must have been quite a diving holiday. It’s a cross cultural morality issue for me so I wouldn’t go there in either sense. Young Thai brides are brought up by rural Chinese for a few thousand dollars and are easy picking for rich white men from around the the world. You can look at it from a positive point of view if you think they go to better lives or from a negaitive point of view if you think they are being ripped out of their culture and soiciety in a form of thinly disguised prostitution. All for you to meditate OP. Who am I to judge?Posted 1 month agoemszMember
Loves a bitch, you fall in love, and she’s **** off to uni, but y’know eventually you might if you’re lucky manage to end up in a cottage together…don’t ask me BTW, I’ve no idea, but that **** for rich parents right?
Chase it, you only live once, and what’s the worst that can happen?Posted 1 month agoconvertSubscriber
The acceptable age difference formula is:
(your age / 2) + 7.
That would make me at 47 and a 30yr old be ok. Whilst I can see the obvious short term possible physical positives (for me obvs) here she’d have to be a pretty odd 30 year old for it to work.
My cousins’ ex husband got together with one of his daughter’s best friends. Moved in and she has just had a baby with him. 47 and 23. And he’d have known her as as pre teen growing up with his daughter. No no no.Posted 1 month ago
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