that there are a lot of ways to have a relationship, and they don’t all have to conform to a happy families image of what’s “right”. You and I might find something intolerable, but others may see some sort of a payoff elsewhere.
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I’ve got a couple of acquaintances who appear have awful marriages, just listening to how they treat each other makes me sad…yet it’s quite possible they are both faithful to each other.
Contrast that with a good friend who on occasions is unfaithful, yet seems to hold together the happiest family I know.
Neither is right, but fidelity in itself is neither the key to a happy marriage, nor is it the destroyer in certain circumstances.
My own view is that you have to weigh up the pros/cons, and after a lengthy and generally happy relationship, for some people the years of guilt alone isn’t worth a night of fun.
The problem is, rational judgment is difficult when you’re a bit drunk and being come on to by someone. Most people I know who’ve cheated have struggled to say no due to the circumstances rather than simply going to try and find extra marital sex. For that reason it’s generally best to avoid getting yourself into the situation in the first place, unless of course you’ve decided that it’s something you want to do.