Hmmm, this is where it gets complicated. He’s a bully through and through – if any attempt is made to stop him doing what HE wants he kicks off, abuse flies at the mum, her husband, the kids, anyone. So not answering phones or doors might work in the immediate, but he will react. Part of me thinks let that happen – if there is physical abuse it will swiftly decide his fate in the situation.
Then it isn’t down to a 14 year old to divorce her father, it is down to her mother and new husband to protect her, whether that be via the Police/ Court or Social Services, if a 14 year old is in harms way with her father then they need to be protected. Someone with his attitude and potential may well have a record already.
I was abused physically by my father from the age between 8 and 13 when i was a scrawny kid, my folks divorced, and when i next saw him in Court at 17, i was an 16 stone rugby lad and i punched him square in the face and haven’t seen him since, based on the evidence documented over many years, the Court Usher, did just that “ushered” me away and told me to keep walking.