distancing yourself from anything negative.

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  • ton
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    having a bit of a hard time at present. bad moods, angry, built up anger.
    getting annoyed at minor things.
    cant be arsed with most things. getting annoyed by daily stuff, brexit, isis lass, politicians, car drivers, adverts, people being loud, all makes me annoyed.

    feel i need to distance myself from anything that annoys me or what i find negative.
    anyone else get this, is it a age thing. help

    nickhit3
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    Hang in there. Nearly wrote a very similar post myself the other day. There will be some excellent advice in this thread no doubt as many will absolutely identify with this. Some might suggest the early signs of depression- somehthing I’m also experiencing particularly the irratibility!

    Without being too tinfoil hat about it, the ‘media’ has alot to do with this modern burn out. Try consciously avoiding the news. If you listen to the radio, try finding podcasts or anything other than current affairs. “If it bleeds it leads” as they say in the news world.. it’s no accident it’s always bad news. It hooks into us. It is insidious. Fwiw I’m also trying to take my advice above at the moment. It’s hard, as I genuinely find current affairs stimulating.. Always here for a talk man even tho I’m a stranger. You’re never alone, remember that.

    Premier Icon bearnecessities
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    Switch off the internet..

    (Really, do. It’s 90% tripe intended to influence you. Gone are the halcyon days where it was 90% porn)

    ton
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    Switch off the internet..

    stw and bearbones forum is all the internet i do.

    Premier Icon mrchrist
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    I feel like that sometimes.

    Since i have stopped watching the spoken news and reading self development books i feel a lot better.

    Taking action and doing stuff. Helps too. Riding, trying new stuff, going to bed early etc. All helps.

    scotroutes
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    Certainly switch off the TV news and don’t read the printed news. It’s all designed to make you angry.

    Sleeping OK? That has a major impact on irritability.

    Have you managed to get in the recreational cycling you were aiming for? If not, see if you can cut out the commute and swap it for some fun.

    I won’t suggest retail therapy… 😊

    Premier Icon bikebouy
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    feel i need to distance myself from anything that annoys me or what i find negative.
    anyone else get this, is it a age thing.

    Do that, turn off the TV at News time.. turn on STW and search for threads that don’t contain any hint of bad news. Don’t speak to anyone about bad news, nor listen to them whilst they spout it.

    Plenty of good news about, but you really have to dig deep to find it.

    Or maybe borrow Dracs iPad..

    I stopped raging at the world and started mocking it instead.

    It’s probably not any healthier but it’s more entertaining.

    Premier Icon funkmasterp
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    You sound like me before I start suffering with a bad bout of depression. It could just be burn out. Try to find some time for yourself to just relax. Have a nap, go for a ride or whatever helps you to chill out. As said above avoid the news in any form. Hope you feel better soon

    fossy
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    Ask the GP for help – i.e. referral for counselling or similar.

    Ditch social media, especially Facebook.

    I’ve been doing this myself and dropping stuff like that.

    Edukator
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    brexit, isis lass, politicians, car drivers, adverts, people being loud, all makes me annoyed.

    You read the chat forum index before typing that. STW is definitely the most negative site I visit. Great innit! Makes me feel better, sometimes, but not always and this evening’s reading hasn’t been good. And now here’s another downer thread. 🙁

    😉

    Premier Icon DezB
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    Wish I could offer advice, but I need some myself. God help the car that overtook me on a blind bend today if they’d had to wait at the junction. CYCLING! That’s supposed to be the stress relief 🙁

    Premier Icon cynic-al
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    What makes you angry re Isis lass?

    Premier Icon bearnecessities
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    What makes you angry re Isis lass?

    What have you read that’s not angry, divisive or plain thick?

    Steer clear of as much of the media as you can and people who get you down. Also things are never anywhere near as bad as they’re presented in the media so don’t fret too much. Everyone has a stake in something so always over inflate the argument no matter what side of it you look at in attempts to manipulate public opinion…massive over exaggerations. Things are overwhelmingly getting better in the world…it’s just that the media focusses on the 1% of crap going on and ignores the 99% of the good stuff.

    Having said that I’ll be watching Question Time later and will be shouting at the TV within a few minutes of it starting!

    andyrm
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    As many have said, cut internet/news/TV exposure. Read books – any of Jack Canfield’s “chicken soup for the soul” series are great for feel good vibes. Then there’s a whole world of self improvement/empowerment books. Go in with an open mind, don’t be cynical, you’ll surprise yourself how much you can get out of it.

    Oh and subscribe yourself to the Jocko Willink podcast. That guy is a hell of a man, and incredibly articulate & well versed. He tells his war experiences and lessons from the front line in a really powerful and impactful way.

    pipm1
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    I get miffed when I find myself thinking of news-related things when I’m out riding. I never used to follow politics but with brexit I feel like a fly that keeps coming back to a turd, in particular the big thread on this forum keeps on bringing me back. Maybe we could lock/hide the Brexit thread on a Friday + weekend? Only kidding, I just need to learn to not open it! 😛

    Premier Icon bigdean
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    Yep, stopped watching national news and listen to local radio on way to work (it seems to be less agressive).
    Ended up having a go at someone in the office quoting what bullet to shoot that isis woman, put my head phones in for the rest of the day.
    Even riding to work yestersay didnt sort things out.
    It seemed like everyone was driving mad on tuesday and we find out how many more are going to be laid off on monday.

    I even have to pick and choose the threads on here as its the same arguing/ trolling bs.

    I’m enjoy morning baths listening to the birds, get outside, find a nice view and enjoy 5mins quiet.

    Am some times reminded of the Duglas Adams bit where someone has put a sign above the front door on the way out “you are entering the asylum”.

    Probably best not to come on here.
    Bunch of angry bald men washing themselves in an airport bathroom who tell you off for leaving the tap running while you brush your teeth after 38 hours of traveling. While it’s pouring rain outside Schiphol

    Premier Icon P-Jay
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    I know how Ton feels, ‘bad’ news can be saturating sometimes, it seems completely relentless and only seems to get worse, this seems at odds with when I was a young adult in the 90s things really seems on a long upswing for a long time (not always of course) but this seems to be the hangover from that period.

    I often need to take a break and remind myself that ‘the news’ is really just another form of entertainment because unless there’s an election due or a Lion loose in your neighbourhood there’s little personal use to it and little you can do about it yourself.

    sarawak
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    Our alarm/radio used to come on in the morning to Radio 4 and the Today programme. Wifey got fed up of me shouting at all the politicos and their agendas.
    We changed the station to Radio 3. Knew nothing about that sort of music but we really enjoy it….and get out of bed in a good frame of mind.

    Whenever anything to do with Brexit comes on TV we just switch it off. Works wonders for keeping us calm.

    jekkyl
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    Get yourself some quality weed. Smoke it and put some quality music on.

    Premier Icon leffeboy
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    Our alarm/radio used to come on in the morning to Radio 4 and the Today programme…

    Yep.  I like to have a couple of mornings with no radio on.  It’s great and feels way less stressful

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    cynic-al

    What makes you angry re Isis lass?

    I know. Same as all the other Brexit, politicans, transgender athletes and everything else THE NEWS is obsessed with – I don’t give a flying ****.

    Premier Icon Drac
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    What I did.

    Avoided Facebook, avoided news, on here as a bare minimum, quite drinking for months,  walked the dog on the days I could be arsed to move beyond the setee let alone the bed.  However, the hardesd and best was forcing myself to socialise.

    Or maybe borrow Dracs iPad..

    Well you can’t cos there’s only one & that’s cos it’s a magic one.

    I know how you feel Ton. I’m now a right angry old bastid & It’s everyday things that piss me off, as you’ll have seen on here…
    Pedestrians who are too incomepetent to cross a road without help, drivers who are a danger to everyone in the world, politicians (all of them), terrorists (one in particular) snowflakes (you know who you are)
    I get so angry I could throw the phone down!

    Premier Icon ourmaninthenorth
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    It is all in your control. Remember that you choose your emotional response to all this stimulus.

    So next time you get annoyed st the news, check yourself and think “Actually do I really give a shit about this?”

    And you know the old adage: why worry about something you can’t control.

    Then do something you like instead.

    I packed in the news years ago. I too was an avid Today Programme listener. Now I listen occasionally but happily switch it off.

    I’ve been on twitter for 10 years. Hardly ever look at it now. Never use Facebook – though I do use instagram and only follow people who put up pictures that make me happy. Don’t like their content, then I unfollow.

    And I assiduously avoid two main political subjects: Brexit and Trump. I can do nothing to influence either of them, so I don’t bother. I’ll deal as best with whatever the outcome of Brexit is as and when I can actually do anything.

    Chill Winston..!

    ElShalimo
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    I could easily get angry but I’ve not got my reading glasses with me. My rage will have to wait a bit longer.

    ton
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    read all this, cheers
    gonna make a proper effort to ignore or turn off anything that riles me from now on.

    Premier Icon bearnecessities
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    Good idea. Now pull up a roast chicken and stare in wonder at tonight’s clear skies.

    Do not pop in here though:

    https://philosophicalvegan.com/

    Don’t!

    Premier Icon funkmasterp
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    Damn you bear! I’ve spent half an hour finding out if God’s plan is on track

    Premier Icon rone
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    Read a David Icke book.

    He attempts to explain why the world is how it is. Probably batshit to most people but there is some good stuff on the world/powers making everyone negative via news and stuff.

    It will be so far out of your comfort zone that you won’t look at anything the same again.

    And even if you accept 1% it will help you you rise above a lot of things.

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    getting annoyed by daily stuff, brexit, isis lass, politicians

    I’m barely even aware of the above, you can’t affect or change any of it, so forget it. Don’t watch the news, open the BBC etc… It doesn’t need to exist in your world.

    dumbbot
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    Become a nihilist, none of it matters.. don’t give a shit about anything. Done.

    I bet there’s a radio on at work? Get that onto music only channel, news repeated hourly or more just pisses Ye aff!.

    Cynic al, don’t fish for an argument on ‘Isis lass’, there’s enough already.

    handybar
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    God, grant me the serenity
    to accept the things I cannot change,
    the courage to change the things I can,
    and the wisdom to know the difference.

    johnx2
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    Ah! Alcoholism – thanks…

    BillMC
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    Many people on here go for activities that are totally immersive and involved flow: rock climbing, surfing, cycling and great for de-stressing. I used to be a news addict but now I get so peed off with the media biases, people running the country into the ground and all the bleating about identity politics I switch off or over to R6 (no telly). Recently I started a bit of wood carving. So, researching images, drawing, transferring images and then shaving away. I can be lost to the world for hours and hours in a very happy and engaged place. Consuming things doesn’t crack it but doing things does. You would benefit from finding a pursuit that draws you in and cancels all the little demons and events that can so easily turn normal people into screaming banshees. Best of luck.

    vickypea
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    I’m a bit grumpy at the moment. I’m trying to restrict my news intake to a quick read of the BBC news app and avoid anything on social media where the general public comment on anything!
    I listen to my favourite music, go for walks, ride my bike with friends, find stuff that makes me laugh. When I am mentally and physically weary, exercise helps. I do a session with a personal trainer once a week- sounds like an extravagance but I feel a thousand times better afterwards (It’s not only the physical benefits)

    Premier Icon DezB
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    Read a David Icke book.

    Arf

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