Right, have been out on a very snowy drive today in my vito and even in places 4×4's were struggling it coped without a hint of trouble. Here is what you do.
Pulling away turn the ASR button off. If it detects the spinning of a wheel it works by braknk the wheel with traction so you end up stopping. So that will give you the best chance of 'getting away'
Once moving turn it back on. I would rather have it on when generally driving about.
If you come to a steep incline and feel the wheels slipping the ASR again will start cutting in. Turn it off to give yourself the chance to keep up momentum. Then back on again when at the top of the incline.
In this way i was able to keep momentum in all circumstances. The button on the dash is easily used so it doesnt detract from concentration.
Oh and to blame traction control for you losing control is laughable. You lose control because you are either going too fast or not steering correctly. I suppose at a push you can blame it for lack of momentum but i have solved that for you above
The other stability package on a Vito is the ESP and is not switchable because you dont need to.