- Bullying / change in behaviour
Anyone else been through this?
Up until the start of the term our 9yo was report to be polite, friendly, respectful and getting on well with kids & teachers. Now he comes home in tears or not wanting to go to school with tales of hitting or name calling by other kids, being written on the Naughty board by his teacher, being kept back during breaks, being told off and he says he’s not able to concentrate on his work because of teasing or under table kicking etc.
There are other kids in his class having recognised issues, and the teacher seems to send 4-5 kids out of the room a day and holds the whole class back at times for rowdy behaviour/noise.
When we heard of him not listening and talk over the teacher and poor work standard from his first parents / teachers meeting we thought the teacher was wrong, because it was so out of character. I was ready to blame him foe the continuous reports of sadness.
I’m nervous my son is feeling this way daily, and although we’ve asked for a meeting with the teacher and are obviously dealing with the issues at home, I’m worried about his mental state.
What to do?Posted 4 months agoweeksySubscriber
It’s a tough one, my lad has a few issues at times and we’ve had tears before bedtime on a fair few occasions.. Sometimes i think kids are horrible little B*****s and sometimes he’s just over-sensitive.
It’s tricky as you can’t just wade in and wallop kids.. (or indeed parents) but you can’t sit and do nothing either.
It goes up and down, good and bad….
I don’t have anything useful other than, you’re not on your own.Posted 4 months agomartinhutchMember
Does sound like the teacher is struggling to keep control of the class, but be a little wary of the reliability of reports home from your lad.
We had a year like this (at about this age) where disruptive elements in the class were constantly kicking off, coupled with a teacher who wasn’t good at discipline. Luckily the school got a grip on it and split up/moved the offenders.Posted 4 months agoaphex_2kMember
I guess it’s a phase. Hormones. Growing up. My 7 year old told us he got sent to the library the other day but wouldn’t say why “I can’t remember”. So we asked the teachers and they said he was fine, and didn’t get sent anywhere. Turns out he was lying but we can’t figure out why. I guess there’s an age when this behaviour starts and I’m sure it will pass. Often it’s “yeah, I’ve cleaned my teeth” (obvs toothbrush is dry and toothpaste not left open). Or “yeah I’ve eaten my lunch” yet lunch box unopened and he didn’t have time to eat ‘cos he was playing with his mates.Posted 4 months agoanagallis_arvensisMember
Talk to the school, try and see the teacher AND someone more senior. Tell them your concerns. Be careful with what your child says and perceives, as I tell mrs anagallis, kids lie including mine. Ours will often say he had a bad day and got told off when he got a small warning.
Get any bullying dealt with though.Posted 4 months agowwaswasSubscriber
Talk to the school. Don’t wait for a parents evening. Phone them, say you have concerns about changes in his behaviour and you want to discuss how you can work together to resolve any issues.
Get their side of the story. Don’t walk in their assuming what you currently believe to be the case is what’s happening.
(sending 5-6 kids a day out of the classroom is pretty extreme, for example, is that what’s really happening?)Posted 4 months agoYakSubscriber
As above, speak to the school now. My son got hit and threatened by another boy. I spoke to the head and the other boy was dealt with immediately. My son was initially reluctant for anyone to know as the threats were of much worse violence if he told. I had to make it very clear he could trust the school to sort it. The school did sort it very well. The other boy has gone now and I hope he gets his issues resolved.Posted 4 months ago
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