If you’re only going down to 30mm, I’d just get some nice wheels for your gravel bike unless it’s a tank? Is it more along the lines of a cross bike with a smattering more tyre clearance, or a slacked out mostercross? If the former, just get some lighter wheels or 32mm tyres on your exiting ones.
Speed difference is only about 5% between by road bike and my cross bike, although they feel very different, to the extent that there’s at least one set of corners on a regular route I can fly round on the road bike (it’s a downhill strava segment) , but the cross bike is significantly off the pace, it’s just lazier tipping it into turns. And I don’t tend to take the cross bike on long road rides, so that 5% is working hard to keep up with the road bike, the gap would widen if I tried to do a century on it.
I’ve got (measured) 27mm tyres on my road bike and there’s ‘clearance’ between the tyre and the front mech band. I don’t think any sporty bike is going to take a 30mm tyre, you’ll have to look at something a bit more relaxed, something from the sportive or ‘all-road’ (other marketing terms are available to cover those bikes which aren’t quite gravel bikes but can probably handle the odd sustrans path) end of things.