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  • Bricking It If I’m Honest
  • Premier Icon MrOvershoot
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    Well that’s my resignation letter printed out!

    I’ve been with the firm just short of 25 years and in this role just over 23 but its got to the point where I’m in an almost constant state of panic/dread. I don’t sleep well & when I do I have nightmares about work! Last week I had a bit of a “heated debate” with our site manager who said “don’t push me” this with a background where myself & 3 other managers have been doing most of his work and covering for his cockups.
    Today brought it all to a head when I found out my wife has been living with a broken hip/femur for the last 5 months, I nearly threw up when I saw the X-rays.
    I have 3 years worth of salary in the bank & another 6 in savings/investments so I’m taking 6 months off to sort things out, my only regret is the chaps who I manage are spot on and I feel a bit guilty dropping them in it given we are already in a staffing shortfall.

    Premier Icon drnosh
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    Look after No 1 and your wife.

    Honestly, life IS too short for ****like that at work.

    Hope your wife is getting the right treatment.

    Premier Icon gofasterstripes
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    In the opinion of this Internet nobody: you’ll be fine and you’re on the right track.

    Premier Icon timidwheeler
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    Congratulations you have taken a massive step towards happiness.

    Premier Icon kcal
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    Good luck, 100% you’ve done the right thing.

    Premier Icon binners
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    Everyone has a point where enough is enough. You’ve clearly reached yours.

    I reached mine 4 years ago with a ‘final straw’ moment at work and handed my notice in at a job that was making me constantly stressed and depressed. I’ve been self-employed ever since

    Best thing I ever did! I’ve never looked back.

    Good luck fella! You’ve made the right call! You’ll have that confirmed very quickly

    Premier Icon hexhamstu
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    my only regret is the chaps who I manage are spot on and I feel a bit guilty dropping them in it given we are already in a staffing shortfall.

    Not your problem.

    Premier Icon molgrips
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    When you’ve got savings like that you are in the driving seat, not your employer!

    Premier Icon dovebiker
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    If they’ve screwed-you-over: Get yourself signed off sick with stress / depression and use up your sick leave cover – probably 9 months – and then at the end to make you redundant due to long term sick. Your panic / dread is a direct consequence of the unnecessary stress they’ve put you under.

    I spent too long working for big corporates who DGAS – you don’t owe your colleagues anything and don’t feel any obligation to your employer.

    Premier Icon martinhutch
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    Well done. You’ve done the hardest bit, made the decision. Crack open a beer and look after your missus.

    Premier Icon Del
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    Have you raised your concerns about the site manager with his superior, if there is one? You’ve obviously been happy enough there for some time.
    Don’t get me wrong – if you’re set on moving on, I wish you good luck.

    Premier Icon jimmy
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    9… Years… Salary… In… Savings… Do you earn £100 a year? If so, then so have I.

    Edit: I mean well done and good luck!!

    Premier Icon rOcKeTdOg
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    Quality of life comes first, this isn’t a money thing it’s a peaceful state of mind thing. I did the same as you 3 years ago & have never looked back. I’ll never be rich in money but in piece of mind and being able to switch off at the end of the day I’m Mr McDuck rolling in gold coins

    Premier Icon eddiebaby
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    Well done.
    Catch your breath, get your wife sorted and get a (better) life for a bit while you work things out.

    Premier Icon bearnecessities
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    You’re one of the more amazing dudes on here; any decision you take I’d put complete faith in 🙂

    Can I also suggest diversifying your admirable portfolio into a charity? I hear that Help for Bearnecessities new kitchen is a very worthwhile cause with reasonable yields*

    *Value of your investment may go down as well as down.

    Premier Icon lankystreakofpee
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    I was in a similar situation this time last year. 20 years at the same place and was constantly stressed and anxious to the point where it consumed my life. I felt bad for leaving the other guys, but in hindsight it was the right thing to do and I wish I had done it years ago.

    Unlike you, I quit with no job to go to and I had 0 years worth of salary in the bank & another 0 in savings/investments!

    I’m now contracting, earning more money for a lot less hours and I can switch off as soon as I leave the office. Bought myself a new bike to celebrate once I had a bit saved up and life is good!

    As you have nice buffer, take the summer off and enjoy it with your wife.

    Resignation day is scary when you’ve been there so long, but I bet it will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders as soon as you get home, open a cold beer and relax!

    I found my 3 month notice period flew by and once you’ve mentally checked out in your head the stress starts to disappear…

    Good luck 😎

    Premier Icon funkmasterp
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    Good luck OP. Sounds like you’ve made a sound decision. Wish I had the ability to do the same. Sadly I have about three hours worth of wages saved.

    Premier Icon oldtennisshoes
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    Good luck MrOS. You’ve done the right thing. Time to look after yourself a bit too.

    Premier Icon TheBrick
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    When you’ve got savings like that you are in the driving seat, not your employer!

    Yes. **** you money. This is freedom. This is wealth.

    Premier Icon thestabiliser
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    You’ll wake up tomorrow and think ‘WTF have I been doing all these years’.

    Premier Icon croe
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    Stick the 3 years salary in with the 6 years worth, invest in stocks that pay good dividends and live off them?

    Premier Icon FuzzyWuzzy
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    Sounds like you’re doing the right thing for you and your family, grats on having the guts to take such a big step (although having 9 years worth of savings certainly helps!). I hope you drew attention to the site manager in your resignation letter (unless you also have an exit interview to go to), it’s not about spite/revenge but people like that shouldn’t just get away with making other people’s working lives a misery – once you’re gone it’s likely they’ll still be making other people’s jobs more stressful than they need to be.

    Premier Icon tjagain
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    9 years worth of salary saved? That would be me retiring.

    Premier Icon Rockhopper
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    I packed my job in about eight weeks ago now for similar reasons. I’m sleeping better and feeling far more relaxed and unstressed even with the added worry of finding something else to do!
    No regrets (so far anyhow…)

    Premier Icon epicyclo
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    …and I feel a bit guilty dropping them in it given we are already in a staffing shortfall.

    And there is one of the best reasons to leave.

    Any employer who operates like that is shit, happily burning out people for the sake of profit. If you drop dead, they may send flowers to the service, but the next day you’re forgotten.

    Have faith in yourself, if you’re good enough to do a job at that level, you’re good enough to strike out on your own, whatever path you take, and don’t give a second thought to the old job. It’s now the problem of your old employers.

    Whatever you do, resist the temptation to kick a few heads on your way out – remember it’s no longer your problem.

    What you’re doing is what I did many years ago, and I’ve never regretted it.

    But start thinking about and acting on the next step immediately. It doesn’t stop you having a holiday, but make it productive time.

    Good luck.

    Premier Icon olddog
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    I did the same 7 years ago. Best move I ever made. It gave me chance to rebalance my life – I got a lot more time for sport, I’ve done voluntary work, went back to Uni to do an MA and worked about 50% of the time.

    The first thing I did when I left was take some time out to reassess things (and sleep).

    I also had a big chunk of change in savings and investments when I left and because we live well within our means when I’m working I’ve still got more or less the same amount left now.

    My view is now that spare money is not to buy things but to buy time and freedom to do what I want.

    Premier Icon Sandwich
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    If I remember correctly the OP is in flour milling. There are some right **** at site manager level in that industry. Penny-pinching people who begrudge others a living wage and compensation for trading their health to make foodstuff all year. You’re best out of it, don’t make my mistake and go into H&S consulting there are worse **** there!!

    Good luck to you and Mrs O

    Premier Icon Esme
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    Well done, Mr O!

    But, whilst your main priority will be looking after Mrs O, you’ll also need to look after yourself. That might mean taking some time out for riding – without feeling guilty. Good luck!

    Premier Icon martinhutch
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    If I remember correctly the OP is in flour milling.

    OP about now:

    Premier Icon Edukator
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    Nine years in the bank then and given your years worked not too many left to a pension. I suspect you’ll never go back. You’ll reduce expenditure and start an new life somewhere else doing something different. Are you the Brummy?

    Premier Icon retro83
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    Best of luck. What a great argument for having a decent wadge of savings.

    What happened with the previously undiagnosed broken hip?

    Premier Icon Marin
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    Good for you. I’d think about going on the sick before resigning, stick another 6 months money in the bank. I’m about to leave the ‘pool and move back over the water as it’s doing my head in a bit living in the city and need to chill out a bit. Your own health is more important than the mill. Sorry to hear about C hope things are getting sorted now. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

    Premier Icon MrOvershoot
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    Cheers chaps I’ll fill you all in later when I’m home

    Premier Icon matt_outandabout
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    Anyone else envious ?

    Premier Icon pocpoc
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    Envious of the 9 years salary saved up? Definitely.

    But job-wise I’m pretty happy at the moment.

    Premier Icon bikebouy
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    Looks like an opportunity IMO.

    Time to move on, pass the baton at work to someone else.

    Go find a corner of this world to enjoy.


    Premier Icon andykirk
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    I did the same thing some years ago. I look back now and wish I had done it years earlier. No job is worth continued stress/ unhappiness.

    Premier Icon Cougar
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    my only regret is the chaps who I manage are spot on and I feel a bit guilty dropping them in it given we are already in a staffing shortfall.

    Loyalty to your employer is laudable. It’s also totally misplaced.

    Most companies would bin you in a heartbeat if the situation necessitated it. The guys you leave behind aren’t your problem, it’s the company’s issue to provide adequate staff and there’s nothing stopping them doing exactly what you’re doing and voting with their feet.

    You’ve done the right thing IMHO.

    Premier Icon MrOvershoot
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    Well I went to see him at 4:45pm and didn’t get out of his office till 5:30pm he basically crapped his pants and pleaded for me to reconsider, my response was if I do it will only be for the next 15 months at best as I had planned to go at 55 anyway.

    He has now offered me all sorts of massive concessions over the next 15 months in a phased hand over to whoever and me choosing my work pattern. I said I will give him my decision next week?

    I feel a lot better now its in the open and will talk it over with some trusted people over the weekend

    Premier Icon Edukator
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    “If you gotta go, go now”: Bob Dylan.

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