this should be a straightforward yay or nay, but knowing STW, there are eleventy tangents to go off down.

This afternoon i saw a pic (facebook) of my sister in law, unconcious*, in a hospital bed. Do i tell my wife?

Further info.
SIL is in Australia, youngest sister to my wife, they were separated when my missus was about 9. found each other through FB about 3 years ago.
Missus departed FB about a year ago (they whatsapp etc) but has just reinstated her account to admin a work page

*looked like asleep – on her side
**yes ive pinged my BIL, but what with the time difference…

What’s the problem? If she would like to know, tell her.

Is it that you’re afraid of doing it?

Why wouldn’t you tell her?

Yes

Of course you tell her.

Imagine something similar, the other way round.

And imagine trying to explain why you didn’t, when she (inevitably) finds out that you knew…

i guess i want to tell her when i know whats going on, or i dont want her to worry unnecessarily.

(will fire up the laptop when i get home and see the pic then)

quite a huge difference between my BIL posting a snap of SIL asleep in hospital post ingrowing toenail op and unconscious post RTA.
like the difference between telling someone face to face or over the phone

mrsalias has enough on her plate currently, its like an Eastenders christmas special…

And imagine trying to explain why you didn’t, when she (inevitably) finds out that you knew…

This. The danger of a subsequently discovered non-disclosure is always far greater than the flak risk from a ‘live’ incident.

Open, Prompt and Honest is always my policy with wives. Mine in particular…

Open, Prompt and Honest is always my policy with wives. Mine in particular

as above. No other choice

I dont want her to worry unnecessarily.

How do you know it’s unnecessary?

mrsalias has enough on her plate currently

You decide what she can handle? I’m not sure she’d see it that way!

This kind of daftness is precisely what drives East Enders and similar.

Open, Prompt and Honest is always my policy with wives. Mine in particular…

How many do you have?

If she is like Mrs zip she will know that you know something.
Her dragging it out of you will do no good for anyone.

How many do you have?

One is plenty.

The policy applies to any married woman though. Better safe than sorry…

If she is like Mrs zip she will know that you know something.
Her dragging it out of you will do no good for anyone.

Like.

I’m amazed you need to even ask this question. Of course you have to tell her, she can then decide what she wishes to do about it!now get off this silly forum and do what is morally right FFS.

Surely if it’s serious your BIL wouldn’t be publishing a pic on social media? Are there no comments to go with the pic?

Anyway just tell your wife, can’t see any reason not to.

The ‘why didn’t you tell me sooner’ could haunt you for years.

tell her now.

My FIL censored info about my youngest BIL being the victim of an attempted car bombing in Ulster. That didn’t go well for him.

Tell her and let her get on with it.

Oh, and “Alias Posting” in the title – are you sure?