So, said wife has still made no contact. Spent the first few weeks pretty devastated and then… i discovered a bit more information about the way she’s been slandering me and behaving over a number of years. Needless to say, it’s sped up the ‘grieving’ process!
It’s funny how, if your very aware of your own faults and generally quite self critical, you can take more of the blame than due. Anyway, i’m saying very little and holding my counsel. People have a way of hanging themselves, so i’ll let her continue.
Now a case of moving on. My over riding emotion at the moment is relief. Life is a funny old thing.
Glad you’re feeling more positive.
One thing – try not to get into the minutae of the gossip and chit chat either now or historical. You can obsess over that sh1t and you’ll find things that will make you fume and churn over in your head late at night. Some of what’s been said/written might feel unjust to you, but none of it matters any more.
Standard internet bro advice for dealing with a marriage breakup:
1. Delete Facebook
2. Get lifting
3. Lawyer up
It’s a bit silly and macho when written like that, but it’s basically sound! So put another way:
1. Ignore gossip and don’t torture yourself by caring about what she’s doing or saying.
2. Concentrate on your own health and wellbeing.
3. Be ready to defend your interests in the divorce settlement.