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  • When you realise your friends are nobs
  • justatheory
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    I have a group of mates who I’ve known for over 10 years. I love em like brothers but I have recently come to the conclusion they are nobs. They are generally bigoted, not very bright – all don’t ‘believe’ in evolution, but believe in god – misogynistic, casually racist and think people who ride bikes are weirdos (they like golf and F1).

    What do you do when you’ve know people for that length of time and are part of their social circle but you don’t have anything in common?

    deadlydarcy
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    I’d have forgiven the bigotry, misogyny and evolution denial. However, I’d draw the line at golf and F1.

    winston_dog
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    Where the f!c5 do you live? Sunderland?

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    RichPenny
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    Lol, + 1 on the golf. 🙄

    Hang on, loads of my essex mates play golf. **** 🙄

    *sends hate mail*

    Del
    Full Member

    read the title and thought ‘nah – likely you’re just being the nob’, however you’ve got me convinced with the body of your post. find some new friends. seriously. or get a dog. or both.
    run. run far away.

    ernie_lynch
    Free Member

    They are generally bigoted, not very bright – all don’t ‘believe’ in evolution, but believe in god – misogynistic, casually racist and think people who ride bikes are weirdos

    Apart from not believing in evolution, they seem alright to me – what’s the problem ?

    And not believing in evolution isn’t that big a deal imo…..I know plenty of people who refuse to believe that the history of all societies is the history of class struggles, despite the overwhelming evidence.

    fenred
    Free Member

    They like golf and F1… and here lies the problem.

    project
    Free Member

    golf, football, fishing, and f1, all nobber occupations.

    You rarely see women involved in any of them,

    ourmaninthenorth
    Full Member

    Sometimes, you just need to move on. I’ve found that with some people recently. So I’m gradually moving away from that. It’s just the way it is.

    bobbingbuoy
    Free Member

    I had a laugh at this post , I went through the same ( awakening )2 years ago and basically binned them all !! Took up triathlon and mtb’ing and have met far better people with it , I now see my old friends every now and then but they bore me stupid !! Still living their boring lives and still either moaning or talking s**t !!

    djglover
    Free Member

    Ditch them and move on, friends come and go.

    I made some close mates at uni in my late teens. but when they were still ingesting a vast amount of class A’s and womanising 5 years later I knew it was time to move on.

    TooTall
    Free Member

    You rarely see women involved in any of them,

    Yeah – and mountain biking is like a totally women-dominated sport, or at least totally equal man.

    I’m sorry – I believe your logic to be flawed.

    landcruiser
    Free Member

    Nobs or Knobs ?

    Garry_Lager
    Full Member

    You have a lot in common with them – 10 years of shared experiences and bro-ship. If it’s got to where you can’t stand being in the same room as them in case the stupidity is contagious, then maybe it’s time to move on. I doubt it though, takes more than the low level beaut behaviour you’re describing to trash ten years of friendship.

    Just wind down the socialising with them for a bit if they’re doing yer swede in.

    kudos100
    Free Member

    I made some close mates at uni in my late teens. but when they were still ingesting a vast amount of class A’s and womanising 5 years later I knew it was time to move on.

    Some of my oldest friends still cane it a bit too much. They have grown up a bit and do other stuff apart from class A’s and drinking.

    In my youth I was friends with some right tools. Thankfully I got rid of them.

    GW
    Free Member

    What do you do when you’ve know people for that length of time and are part of their social circle but you don’t have anything in common?

    er..leave school 😉

    BenHouldsworth
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    think people who ride bikes are weirdos

    What have you talked about for 10 years?

    When you’re stuck in a rut with friends and getting on (I’m assuming you’re near middle age and with kids if you’re on here at 9 at night) it’s sometimes tricky to imagine where you’ll find a new circle of friends but despite my tendency to rant and ability get thread deleted through my complete inappropriateness at times, I actually met a group of guys, husbands of my wifes friends, all hardened singlespeeders, and its ticking along nicely.

    You never know whats round the corner and theres always STW if you’re lonely.

    lodge
    Free Member

    If we were all the same the world would be boring place but on the golf front:
    My house is virtually on a golf course I walk my dog, run and sometimes bike around the edge of the course, its such lovely place to be. The amount of blokes I have seen having hissy fits even throwing clubs into the trees is unreal I just dont get it, why do something which costs a fortune and makes you that unhappy. leave the clubs at home as your ruining a nice walk.

    kevj
    Free Member

    Where the f!c5 do you live? Sunderland?

    How very un-bigoted.

    molgrips
    Free Member

    People drift, move on. All that crap about mates being for life is not necessarily true.

    HermanShake
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    I know what you mean, but in different circumstances. I found it profound when I connected with some of my current friends in much less time than the entire ‘friendships’ I had allegedly forged over years.

    You appear to have long outgrown them, move on. Crap friends are easily humoured too, you may never to break up. But get to know new people and by being yourself immediately you can cut out the bullsh*t stage. Not easy though!

    stradl8r
    Free Member

    I am the nobber in the group that everyone thinks is a dick 🙁

    alpin
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    i’ve a group of 5 “mates” like that back in the UK. still living in the same area they grew up (not a bad thing in itself, but have you ever been to Chadwell or canvey Island in Essex?), going to the same shit awful bars and clubs we used to frequent when we were 17, still rate the quality of their weekend by how much they drunk, have never read anything more challenging than the Sun and are generally a bit narrow minded.

    i don’t miss them. i doubt they miss me, but i’m glad in a way that i no longer have contact to them.

    emanuel
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    what alpin says.you’ve grown up,it’s time for a bigger pond.
    I really should write for a living,me.

    Stoatsbrother
    Free Member

    Move on

    randomjeremy
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    hahah “hardoned singlespeeders”, I’ll save that one along with power rangers and stormtroopers

    BenHouldsworth
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    You know what I mean TJ, they could have ridden 150 mm travel round the bridleways of North Leeds, instead they like riding and tearing legs off, works for me.

    Junkyard
    Free Member

    I know plenty of people who refuse to believe that the history of all societies is the history of class struggles, despite the overwhelming evidence.

    I hear you brother i hear you
    Fine work on so many levels 😆
    With my mate I see him very rarely and spend all night telling him not to be an idiot when he is being an idiot. You move in you cannot be friends with folk you dont like history or not you are not mates anymore. Move on IMHO

    buzz-lightyear
    Free Member

    have you ever been to Chadwell or canvey Island in Essex?

    I’m from Chadwell Heath. I haven’t been back there since I left for Uni in 1988.

    TandemJeremy
    Free Member

    BenHouldsworth – Member

    You know what I mean TJ

    It wasnae me Ben

    BenHouldsworth
    Free Member

    Apologies, who is this randomjeremy? Is it like the episode of KnightRider when there was the evil Michael dopplerganger?

    TandemJeremy
    Free Member

    I think the name says it all

    alpin
    Free Member

    buzz-lightyear – Member

    have you ever been to Chadwell or canvey Island in Essex?

    I’m from Chadwell Heath. I haven’t been back there since I left for Uni in 1988.

    nah, sorry, Chadwell St Mary… although it’s probably on a par with the Heath…

    and then you’ve got places like Ockendon and Aveley…. arrgghh! used to hate driving through there at night.

    enfht
    Free Member

    I know plenty of people who refuse to believe that the history…

    Maybe they just refuse to listen to yet another excerpt from your prized Che biography 😀

    GlitterGary
    Free Member

    They think riding bikes is for weirdos? They seem very clued up. 😆

    globalti
    Free Member

    To the OP – are your friends all ramblers? Weren’t they on a video here yesterday?

    Mugboo
    Full Member

    I class myself as a luck lad to have kept my school friends into my 40’s. We don’t see each other as often as we should but its like it was yesterday when we do.

    All that growing up we did together cannot be ignored, they are a part of what made me the man I am today. I have made new friends since then, some through my clubbing years and now some through bikes. You can have both 🙂

    Have you noticed though that no matter how old you get and no matter how much you have changed, when you get together you all slot into the roles you have had since childhood! 😯

    OP, is that why you don’t like your old mates?

    Mugboo
    Full Member

    Apart from the Golf bit…

    warton
    Free Member

    Sometimes, you just need to move on. I’ve found that with some people recently. So I’m gradually moving away from that. It’s just the way it is.

    +1

    I had a group of friends I’d been close with for 10 years +. then i realised I didn’t really like them anymore (or was it they didn’t like me!). always me making the effort to include them, them bitching about each other (and no doubt me) behind backs, always doing drugs, and then lying to their wife’s, and friends about doing them. final straw was when I had my son, not one of them made any effort to come and see him. Haven’t spoken to them in a year.

    ScottChegg
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    But they will be in the pub complaining that having a kid changed you.

    Perspective innit?

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