Not buying my first flat 4 years earlier.
Buying a stupid gas guzzling fast car and wasting so much money on it when I was young.

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Not moving in with the 6 Swedish girls in the second year of uni

Were they the same six swedish girls I partied with in Southwark Uni, who offered me an a mate to “carrying on drinking at thier place”, but we really wanted to go to the Ministry of Sound?

Duh….

Leaving Cassy Pegna.

That is all.

Not joining the armed forces, really think it would’ve suited me.

That, and choosing a career path because I knew the subject and found college easy (but was too lazy to do the assignments), rather than something I was genuinely interested in…….

Not re-applying for the Royal Marines after being told to do so.. Passed all the tests including the potential Royal Marines course.

Got home, got a join date… Went to get a final check over from doctor, they picked up what they thought was a heart murmur…… Access denied! Until it was sorted out.. Had to wait 2 months for and ECG.. Nothing came up! Specialist reckoned they doctor had made a mistake and panicked as I have a very low pulse count.. I was fuming!

Went to see careers office, they told me I had to re-apply.. I never did! : (

Really feel I missed my calling in life and now I’m stuck driving a lorry! Can’t get motivated to get fit, have all but given up cycling (don’t even have a mountain bike now),still play Ice Hockey but both knees are minced and got a bad shoulder!

Wish I hadn’t stopped playing Ice Hockey when I was 18 for 10 years aswell!

Oh and I wish I hadn’t taken my ungrateful Ex to Australia with my family when my Dad retired.. She ruined my holiday!

However I’m a very luck guy to have a beautiful wife, nice house, great family, 2 lovely nephews, amazing friends, money in the bank and I recently purchased a 2003 BMW M3… Happy days!

Were they the same six swedish girls I partied with in Southwark Uni

Kingston uni, would have been a far better place to live in retrospect not the skanky engineers I ended up with. 😐

I don’t have regrets, they were all learning experiences. Different ones could have led to different outcomes, but that’s life.

I don’t think it is emotionally healthy to dwell on what could have been.

Found this on the web:

Here are the top five regrets of the dying:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

When I was around 20 I got offered the chance to go and teach Judo in the middle east, I turned it down as my own fighting career looked promising, 5 years later blew my knee out and had to retire

I have fulfilled most of my dreams/ambitions. But i do wish sometimes that i’d taken the opportunity to go work in scandinavia. If i did that however, i would not have met my wife and have a beautiful daughter. So i am pretty happy with my lot.

1981miked – mine was a health issue. I’m hoping to join something this year. I hope its not an issue again 🙁

I had the opportunity to go out with the most beautiful woman that I’d met. I’m glad I turned her down. I don’t think I’d have be with mrshora today if I hadn’t turned her down.

Not moving in with the 6 Swedish girls in the second year of uni

remaining faithful to my then gf after moving in with 2 swedish girls at uni

replying in the negative when same gf asked if her friend could join us as she was feeling left out 😯 bashes head on desk & wonders what on earth I was thinking all those years ago

possibly leaving the mining industry, although that was in 1983 so probably a good idea at the time

Leaving the council after I did my motor mechanics apprenticeship, If I’d stayed there I’d be retired now with over 40 years in!
Wish I hadn’t stopped playing Ice Hockey when I was 18 for 10 years aswell!

Wish I’d taken it up when I was 12! Played a bit of recreational at Durham in my 30’s so at least got a feel for it.

I also regret not giving Glynis what she wanted when I was 15. 🙄

Marrying my first wife. If I’d left her when we had that big argument the year before we got married, I would have been far better off mentally and financially and would not have wasted the next two years.

Other than that, I think I maybe should have tried to join the Army when I left uni after the RAF said I was too tall to fly fast jets. I may have been binned during Sandhurst for medical reasons, but I may not have been and I regret not trying it. I enjoy the hell out of being in the Reserves now and would have enjoyed it more if I had been younger.

Other than that, not much.

lots of girl related regrets. Mine are too but really quite minor.

A number of times, I could have had a much better time with a girl than I realised, I was just too naive/stupid/obnoxious to get it. For example, a mate of my sisters chased me for a while and at the time I thought it was just her being friendly. About ten years later I suddenly realised it meant far more to her than that. very silly of me. I was so dumb! It was so obvious it’s embarrassing I didn’t notice.

A few things like that.

No big things though. It’ll all part of life’s pagentry. I don’t regret any of the big mistakes I made. And I made lots.

Sheesh, where to start, how long have I got?

I tend to only look forwards now, gazing into the past thinking about what could have been isn’t helpful to anyone.

Hora- good luck then mate, I’m pondering trying for the Royal Navy Reserves, fairly sure my knees would manage that.

Looking to buy another mountain bike aswell and find a job that gets me home more.

Keep us posted Hora.

Spending too long being the better part of 20st.
Fat, no confidence, lazy, unfit, depressed. Losing weight has made a big difference to my life. The mind-opener was when i’d lost a bit of the extra belly insulation and attractive girls started coming on to me (not that i ever handled that well)

I’d quite like to bugger off round the world and live a very simple existence for a while. No kids yet so it’s still possible but I can’t see it happening really……

If I hadn’t made all the good and bad choices that I have, I probably wouldn’t be who I am now, where I am now and married to my wife. So I don’t regret anything really, it’s just a journey with good and bad bits….

Leaving it so long to seek help (only just started at 47yo) and missing out on ‘life’ due to low self esteem/lack of confidence/depression.

I regret getting into serious trouble when I was 18, which ended with some time away from home, paid for by the government.
this led to me eventually not making the grade as a pro rl player.

sad thing is that 1 stupid choice can change your whole life..eh?

My regret is not rejoining the Army, although it is still possible if they don’t mind about my leg fracture this year.

Getting 26″ anthem instead of the 650b
..now i cannot make cannock chase trail alive 😐

..should have remain teaching chemistry 😐

I treated an ex very badly. She was orininally a childhood sweetheart, but we remained friends and used to meet up when I was on leave. She even came to my pass out parade.
I just stopped bothering (young selfish care free squaddie), and I regret it very much now (not in a weird stalkerish way). I just wish I’d not been such a ****, she really deserved better.
I regret a few things, but I’m properly ashamed of that.

For example, a mate of my sisters chased me for a while and at the time I thought it was just her being friendly.

This is very common I think. I got together with my gf after a mutual friend sat me down in the pub and said “she really likes you, so will you please do something about it?”

For some reason.. This thread is very moving and making me really sad. 😐

wrecker…….life is too short mate, contact her and apologise, it will ease the guilt I reckon… 8)

I regret not starting skiing and mountain biking when I was younger. I’ve missed out on a good ten years of both!

wrecker…….life is too short mate, contact her and apologise, it will ease the guilt I reckon…

Cheers Ton. I nearly have many times. I can live with the guilt, I’d only do it if I thought it would make her feel better about it. It’s probably a bit arrogant to think she even cares anymore.
Crikey this touches a nerve!

Actually I just remembered – not being into mountain biking when I lived in Vancouver for 6 months. 🙄

I regret getting into serious trouble when I was 18, which ended with some time away from home, paid for by the government.
this led to me eventually not making the grade as a pro rl player.

sad thing is that 1 stupid choice can change your whole life..eh?

All those ‘roids wouldn’t have done you much good though. 🙂

I reckon when a bloke feels guilt, it proves he is a ok person….. 😀

My life has panned out nicely but I wish my dad had lived a year longer to see it all happen.

My biggest regret is not following through an idea I had in the late 80’s to open a New York style sandwich bar in glasgow. No one else was doing it but I just couldn’t afford the rent for the property I wanted on sauchiehall
Street.

My life has panned out nicely but I wish my dad had lived a year longer to see it all happen.

Ah yes. I wish I’d made my peace with my Father whilst he was alive.

life is PAIN and SUFFERING, once you recognise this you will find the happiness and joy inbetween. Yoda, Star Wars.

Agree with zippy and hora, but mine would have had to wait 20 years. Still its been worth it!

Not riding the Rangers path on Snowdon before they dumped loads of bags of rocks all over it. 🙁

Not making more effort to stay permanently in Australia and coming back to the UK for a girl.
Should have drunk way less over my twenties.. a lot of time wasted hungover or tired.
Quiting that job where I had to tape underwear onto naked ladies boobies.