I proposed after 12 longs years of avoiding it in April... Such was the surprise my 28 year old now fiancé had a stroke haha...
Anyway if you want a venue that is not a grotty worn out hotel then you can expect the venue alone to be at least £5k we have found... And even some at that price are not great.
£50 a head is pretty standard for just a basic 3 course meal.
£1000 for a photographer for the day, without getting ANY photographs is in normal, and cheap. An album... £500 extra, memory stick with photos £300 extra.
Wedding dresses that are not mass produced by debenhams, at least £1k
Drinks packes from £15 per head is normal, not many cheaper (we picked a venue that has let us take our own drinks, with no corkage fees, which can be £7.50 a bottle or more).
I don't know many people by any stretch of the imagination, in fact I lead a quite boring friendless life compared to some, but we got to 80+ people in the day, and 120+ in the evening.
The most costly part of all... Family relationships... Right from the start all you get is 'are you inviting such and such'... 'why are you not inviting you 5th step cousin'.
I now know why I put it off for 12 years, and I wish I had put it off another 12 years... It's frankly a farce and not worth it.