When it's say me and daughter on our own it's fine we talk like adults. She asks me if I need anything doing etc and me same for her. And she is a bright kid. But when we''re all in the way she talks to her mum when asked to do something by her is disgusting. And I get the back lash of their arguments which annoys me.
If you guys can talk like adults, maybe you could sit her down at some point and have a conversation about how it upsets you to hear her speak that way to her mum. Maybe ask her what it is that makes her do it - even, is she aware of how she sounds?
I had my moments as a teen for sure, but if I was rude or spoke inappropriately to either parent, their partners would have pulled me up on it, if it happened in front of them.
I always said to my ex-partner, if I am sharing the same space as your kid, then I have some say in what behaviour is and is not acceptable in our home. Parenting decisions, such as what school kiddo went to, or health treatment, etc, were totally left to the parents, but I said, if you want me to live with you, then house rules are my domain as well. If I got the "don't tell me how to raise my kid" I've give him the "don't expect me to live with your kid then". Harsh? Maybe. But as pointed out above, I didn't have the parental blinkers on. If parents don't want to compromise on these things, they either don't hook up with anyone until their kids are grown and flown, or they at least don't get their partner to move in. Unfortunately, that's the reality of post-separation parenting, and relationships, and the minefield that is.
Being rude to anyone, adults or otherwise, is not OK. In the real world, she won't be able to speak to her boss like that, or colleagues (ha - well she can try, but woe betide her if she gets a colleague or boss like me!)
Another no good man thinks a woman is going to put him before her child, at the end of the day to the girl you're just some man that's **** her mum.
You know what? My step-parents were both lovely people. I was happy they made my parents happy, because f*** knows they were miserable when they were married to each other, and my step-parents were nice to me. I say were, as one has now passed away and my dad split up with his 2nd wife (now on to the 3rd). Their money contributed to the household, it bought me stuff I needed and wanted. I could talk to them if I had problems. But I was not allowed to treat them or my own parents like crap.
If you mean that a parent expecting good behaviour from their child, help around the house from a damn near grown adult, and for everyone in the house to be treated with respect, and that's "putting a man before your child" then no wonder there are so many spoilt entitled little brats out there is all I can say.