I used to post here years ago on the old forum, under a different name, and I'm back as I need to vent anonymously.
Yesterday should have been one of the best days of my life but it turned into the worst. I went with my wife to our 12 week scan, only to discover that the baby is way smaller than it should be. They've said we either have an early pregnancy or a "failing" one - but for it to be an early one we'd need to be about 6-7 weeks out with our dates and we just don't think we are. We should be 12 weeks, the sac measures 7 weeks but the baby is only 3mm and it should be 2.5" by now.
My wife is in pieces, the worst part is that we have to wait a week for another scan to see if there's any growth before they'll tell us definitively that we've lost the baby. I think deep down we both know we have and as bad as it is for me I know it's worse for her, as it's her body and she has to deal with everything that comes next. I'm still haunted by the look on her face when we couldn't see anything on the scan - I keep replaying the exact moment that her heart broke. I feel so completely and utterly helpless just now. I'm trying to be there for her, but there's really nothing I can do to help. A week seems like an incredibly long time right now.