Tell her that you ask for relationship advice on here.

Well its done. She took it well.

Thank you. I am surprised you guys all must be sober as there was some good advice.

go on admit it, you dumped her by text didnt you? 😉

now you going to get stalked hardcore!!

nope a little email.

soma_rich – Member
nope a little email.

Leave a message on her mums answerphone.

CHICKEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Remember the last time I dumped someone, made sure it was the morning after I’d put some extra effort into the mokey business.

Result? 6 more months of no strings monkey business, well I say no strings…………………

Should’ve said, “It’s not me, it’s you”.

Best advice is to do the Homer Simpson way – write a letter –

“Dear X,

Welcome to Dumpsville…population YOU!”

Puts the message across in a firm and definite way…

Cool-honesty can have its place!

Surprised no -ones tagged this yet.
pulls up chair

Maybe a text and sign off with a sad face :'(

I’ve got a few of the Meantime IPA (the greatest REAL India Pale Ale on the market today, IMHO)

Been meaning to try that for ages. S’actually brewed just a few miles from where the first ever India Pale Ale was brewed.

I’ll be in the Union pub in Greenwich on Saturday night, the tap for Meantime. Will sample some then.

Well tell her on the phone you want to o for a coffee as “I need to tlk to you”.
Then during said coffee: I am sorry “insert female name” but this doesn’t feel right for me and I’d rather be honest with you than lie. I am sorry I think I need time. But if you want we could be friends.

You’ll probably have to pay for the drinks…

Hope it helps.

lol @ juan

I wish I’d been online for this! The problem with the letter is you don’t get to shake her hand after the conversation. There’s alwasy that weird moment where you don’t know how to end the conversation after you’ve told her. Give her a hug? A peck on the cheek? Or the forehead? Nope, shake her hand, there’s no way she’ll misunderstand that gesture and she’ll still remember you forever.

“did you know you haqve chlamydia?”

“I haven’t”

“You have now!”

what is so funny RD?

Waves to rich and foxy boy 8)

IMO anyone that can’t say anything to my face and has to resort to text/e-mail is weak and not worthy of me.

But respect to Rich, cos he’s a decent bloke, for asking for advice and wanting to do the right thing. There’s not many gentlemen around these days.

foxy – the STW guys just don’t have your Gallic charm. How are you?

Right, I’m off to my bunker to escape the ammo from the STW Massiv 🙄

short text?………

**** off weirdo

😉

the greatest REAL India Pale Ale on the market today, IMHO

Marstons Empire is better, Meantime beers are overpriced trendy fashion ales, imo 🙂

You’ll probably have to pay for the drinks…

Tee hee….

Ask her how she usually dumps someone then use that method.

Awaits new thread on another bike forum, “my biking boyfreind has just dumped me and i dont know why”.

oh and beer may well have been brewed for export to India in London initially, but IPA’s are very hoppy and the water in London isn’t good for hoppy beers, it was only when the Burton Breweries started making a strong, hoppy pale ale that the style took off.

Of course they probably treat the water in London today with gypsum to make it similar to Burton water, but it’s not the same is is.

IMO anyone that can’t say anything to my face and has to resort to text/e-mail is weak and not worthy of me.

Very true, we did talk alot over email so it was natural to end that way. And I was a big girl.

Awaits new thread on another bike forum, “my biking boyfreind has just dumped me and i dont know why”.

I didnt leave it like that and gave reasons that I hope she understood.

Mackem – Member

Tell her you´re gay.

..but point out you weren’t till you met her

FFS – two dates ?? Like she cares, prolly doing it with your best mate, you are just cover.

Be honest. Not brutally honest of course, complimentary and say you dont think it would work. Anyway, its only the second date- shes hardly going to be cut up is she? Do it, dont hide from her calls. Just say its not the right time for you.

Blummin ‘eck, this thread has cheered me up, despite being full of a cold & feeling hanging!
Cheers y’all! 😀

Rich – you did the right thing. I really don’t see the point in getting involved with someone if it’s not right! I mean, you could have ended up in a dead end relationship all because you didn’t have the guts to say she wasn’t really quite right for you.

Good for you 🙂

Similar situ here… give her one more chance, then after the date tell her either way. Easy.

2 dates!??!
you dont need a way out, just tell her the truth!

“ure a loverly lass, but its not going anywhere, sorry, toodles”

why do you want to dump her,tell her your in training to be a monk ,also dont burn them bridges.
simples

Beergut.

getting rid of them is far easier than getting them in the first place….tell me how you get them i’ll tell you how to lose them.

Blimey, reading this thread has cheered me up no end, made me realise there ARE people out there with even less clue about the dating game than me!

Soma_Rich, for future reference mate, spoken word is the way to do it. Over the phone, or face to face, email/text is generally way too impersonal. Fair enough if it worked this time and you remain friends, but I wouldn’t remain friends with anyone that dumped me via text or email!

Anyway, it was 2 dates. No issues. “Sorry, I think you’re nice, but I just don’t fancy you enough to start a relationship, I would love to be friends though” is all it requires.

Meeting nice girls is FAR more of a problem than dumping the unsuitable ones, even if it’s not a nice thing to have to do anyway.

no – you men are just too choosey 😉

i`ve never been choosy.

a simple ‘i cant be arsed’ seemed to work for me in the past to deter unwanted attention.

aleigh – Member

no – you men are just too choosey [:wink:]

Hahaha! Ironic statement of the year!!

aleigh – Member

no – you men are just too choosey [:wink:]

Aleigh, DO NOT say things like that when we know what you’re like! Maybe I am choosy, but it’s cos ultimately I want to be happy and know I couldn’t settle for anything that doesn’t feel right.