DJ1 used to be the go to fork. Windwave used to press out the alloy steerer and put a steel one in for you.
alcapones offer is a good one tho. They would do you nicely
We ran our cannondale hardtail tandem on a DJ1 with a steel steerer for a few years ( Bit of a mix and match job with two hard springs and air caps), now running a ‘zochhi z1 lite that I also had windwave fit a steel steerer to. This does lift the front of the bike very high but I don’t really notice the handling effects just not being able to get a foot down.
I wouldn’t like to run a tandem on an XC fork. The new moustache tandem runs a yaris but I don’t know if its modified.. Under heavy braking even with the Z1s you can see the fork bend back to the BB by an inch or two. Its scary amounts of forces.
As for weight – before we went on a two week tour of the Hebrides we stood on a weighbridge with the fully loaded tandem and trailer. Well over 200Kg total :-).