With 29ers the extra bottom bracket drop below axle height is going to mean that to get the front wheel up, short chainstays are well worth any small deficit to barge like stability. Not only that, but generally 29ers will have a significantly longer wheelbase, and due to the need for foot clearance for the front wheel, the only place to lose that excess lankiness for nimble turning is in the rump.
In my eyes, short chainstays rock in general and give rise to all sorts of manuals, drifts and when courage allows, 180s/360s.
So in summary…
long chainstays= boring and sensible (your Gran)
short chainstays= Rock n Roll (your 1st tattoo)