Short answer: If you can get both then I would and give them a good try.
Long answer: My most ridden bike of 2017 came with a 100mm stem and 750mm bars. The bike felt ok actually (old school geometry 29er) but as I was at the bottom end of the size chart for this frame size I thought I’d try a 50mm I had in the spares bin. It felt horrible.
I then picked up an 80mm cheap on CRC which was ok but I still wasn’t completely happy.
Finally I bought a 70mm last month and it really made all the difference. It felt SO right from the off.
So worth persisting till you get it right.
The rough guide I remember reading for fitting a wider bar was for every 20mm wider in bar width, reduce the stem 10mm. Not sure how accurate that is but it’s a guide I guess.