Should I grow up as the mrs say's ?

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Should I grow up as the mrs say's ?

57 posts & 42 voices | Started 4 months ago by mountainman | Latest reply from Marin

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momo - Member

My ex-wife used to moan when I went out biking, but she didn't have any hobbies of her own so never understood why I enjoyed getting out on the bike so much. The current girlfriend is a horse rider, and takes every opportunity to get out riding, so she fully understands where I'm coming from, she has no problem with me heading off for a weekend biking, this one is definately a keeper!

I'm a few years younger than you (31) but based on my personal experience I would say don't grow up! If you feel that you've been forced to give up a hobby you enjoy, you will only grow to resent her, which will not lead to a healthy future for you.

Posted 4 months ago #
wwaswas - Member

all of us earlier;

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zo4Y0TxW41g

or with a bit less biking in the video;

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7ysd2ilcx8

Posted 4 months ago #
Sue_W - Member

It's not a question of 'not growing up', but continuing to live your life with passion, energy and enthusiasm. I think I've 'grown up' as I don't have the same life now as when I was 20, but I now bike / hike / climb / travel more than I used, so if that counts as 'growing up' - bring it on

Life is for living, each and everyday, by giving it all that you've got. So carry on biking etc, but also embrace your relationship with enthusiasm, love and passion - and if you don't ever feel that, is it really what you want?

BTW - not all women live only for soaps, shopping and handbags you know!

Posted 4 months ago #
clubber - Member

BTW - not all women live only for soaps, shopping and handbags you know!

Of course, they don't. Now calm down dear

To the OP, think you need to get some balance back into your relationship...

Posted 4 months ago #
mudshark - Member

When mtbers grow up they get road bikes. Not sure if that's a good thing.

Posted 4 months ago #
coffeeking - Member

Sue kinda says it all. Growing old is inevitable, growing up is just learning to conform to the ways of the people around you who have already given up and accepted they can't do fun things. Sad really, they should be pitied.

Posted 4 months ago #
thekingisdead - Member

"You don't stop having fun 'cos you get old. You get old 'cos you stop having fun."

Divorce your wife

Posted 4 months ago #
scu98rkr - Member

"should i lock her in the cellar when my brother comes to visit ?"

Hmm interesting

Posted 4 months ago #
Sue_W - Member

@ clubber - "calm down" ... not a chance, far too many things to get excited about

@ mudshark - oops have a road bike (even worse have two) ... does that mean I've grown up? I still mountain bike though, so maybe not completely ...

Posted 4 months ago #
teasel - Member

Her attempt to change you is childish. Your love of mountainbiking is childlike. Big difference...

Posted 4 months ago #
trb - Member

Too my shame, I have grown up considerably since I met my wife.

Yes, we now own a Tandem and a set of panniers...

Posted 4 months ago #
coffeeking - Member

Yes, we now own a Tandem and a set of panniers...

Oh dear. Ready the nursing home.

Posted 4 months ago #
clubber - Member

I road biked more when I was younger than I do now. Does that mean I'm getting younger as I get older? Brilliant

Posted 4 months ago #
mountainman - Member

@ mudshark - oops have a road bike (even worse have two) ... does that mean I've grown up? I still mountain bike though, so maybe not completely

I have a road bike too,thats quicker for cycling to work or home so as said "I have Grown up".

Posted 4 months ago #
molgrips - Member

If your wife thinks cycling is a kids sport then she's pretty thick. It's done by all ages, always has been.

Some cycling is also done off-road.

Posted 4 months ago #
I_did_dab - Member

You could point out that 'growing up' often involves: becoming fat and unfit, possibly impotent, getting really boring, playing golf, wearing beige nylon slacks, comb-overs, endlessly talking rubbish about sports that you once or never played, worrying about the FTSE, washing your car more than it needs, endlessly decorating the house, thinking that fun is for children, working too much...

Posted 4 months ago #
perthmtb - Member

Although my wife rolls her eyes every time a new parcel of goodies arrives from CRC, I think secretly she's just pleased its only cycling, rather than a nasty Ferrari/yachting habit, or banging the secretary - like other middle aged men do to get over their mid-life crisis...

Posted 4 months ago #
Stoatsbrother - Member

DTMFA

ok... too strong may be?

But what is so good about being "grown up"?

Posted 4 months ago #
sadmadalan - Member

My wife did complain that the last bike was probably one too many. Then she sold it! However there have been mornings when I have been behaving like a bear with a sore head and she has booted me out of the house for a couple of hours for my own good!

I don't see why I should change what I want to do, just because I am getting older. In fact now that the boys are leaving home, I'll have more time to remain young!

Posted 4 months ago #
LeeW - Member

Just tell her you'll grow up when you find some one to grow up like.

Posted 4 months ago #
organdonor - Member

mastiles_fanylion
You shouldn't grow up - she should.

^this^

Posted 4 months ago #
Marin - Member

If you enjoy it and it keeps you sane why stop? My OH only complains when bikes start living in the kitchen and when I go riding as I cant go climbing with her.

Posted 4 months ago #