My long-term girlfriend and I are currently saving all our money (well, I'm saving all mine, she has a horrible habit for buying shoes) to buy a house. We've been going out for ages (8yrs) and both know we're going to get married at some point. Once we've moved into our house, it would be useful to get married as we could get all our stuff (toasters, plates e.t.c.) as wedding presents. How useful! I'd make sure it was romantic and everything and not just a marriage because we need a toaster, as that's a rubbish idea.
With all this saving (I have around £150 left each month for spending) it would take me forever to buy a ring (or at least one that she would want - she's a little materialistic and likes her expensive items)(aren't I using a lot of brackets?).
My mum has said I can have her engagement ring, which I think is quite touching although my mum and dad are now divorced. My worry is that my girlfriend may see this as 'doing it on the cheap' as I wouldn't have to fork out any money! What do you think? I don't really want to ask her opinion. as that would ruin the surprise, and I don't want to get it wrong as said girlfriend is also a bit of a princess and I know this is really important to her (probably too important to get my answer from STW!)
The main diamond in the ring is huge and the ring was valued at over 3k several years ago. If I were to buy a ring it would cost much less than this. Should a buy a dummy ring to propose with then give her the option of having my mum's straight away or saving for years for one from a shop? Should I keep the diamond and get a new ring made to fit it? (it's gold and she only has silver/white gold jewellery. Would this be massively expensive?). Should I propose with it anyway and hope she likes it?
Why aren't guys this complicated? Gays have it so easy!