Been in similar, not on FB but in a similar peer group. I tell them the truth, I took a decision a few years back that I’d donate to a couple of select charities and do it by regular direct debits. I’ve a friend who is finance director for a children’s charity, and that was his advice; while one-off donations are always gratefully received, they are also very hard to predict and hence they like to have a regular, steady income stream which they can base their budgets more firmly on (may be different to the disaster relief charities, who keep money back to be ready to respond to emergencies but also know that if there is an emergency, they get a surge in donations). I do still occasionally donate extra but it is my choice and usually something the genuinely touches or impresses me (like the 100 mile flapjack ride on here recently). And then leave it, unspoken, that going on a diet and then for a walk doesn’t quote ring my bell.
One other thing – how much charity leaders get paid. My mate gets well paid for what he does. He jumped ship from big corporate a few years ago once he’d earned enough from them to secure his future, and be able to take a pay cut. He earns about 75% of what he’d be worth if he was still in corporate. But,what he delivers in value is far more than his cost, far more than you’d expect from someone without his experience and skill set gained in corporate, and all gets ploughed back into the charity purpose instead of ending up in shareholder dividends or fund manager bonuses. I don’t see a problem in what he or his boss earns, as long as they are good value for it?