Hello all,
No woe is me post 😀 I’ve been through a separation/divorce in the past and know how bad that can be, but I’m now in a new relationship and can’t seem to figure things out.
So, the low down is…been seeing the other half for seven months (both forty – I have two kids, she has none). She’s met the kids and gets on great with them (as they do her), so no issues there. It’s been pretty full on since the word go. She’s asked me to move in with her next year and we’ve talked about the possibility of having a kid of “ours”, which isn’t a decision I’d take lightly, but is something I’d consider. We have never had a face to face argument, despite spending a hell of a lot of time together. We are pretty much spot on 99.9% of the time and I do love being with her.
But, whenever we are apart, there are continual trivial arguments and bickering by text, and when I say trivial, I mean really trivial. It seems to be happening with ever increasing frequency too.
She recently spent two weeks in Spain on a holiday which was booked “pre-me”, and it was two weeks of constant and petty bickering. The reason I’m feeling so unsettled just now is that she is away to NY next week (again booked “pre-me”), and I’m now fully convinced the same is away to happen again.
I’ve basically said that I don’t want text contact while she is away and that the odd phone call would be good.
I’m in a quandary over the whole thing. My head says there must be something fundamentally wrong with the relationship which cause these stupid rows (and at 40y/o effectively having to ban texting), my heart says that we haven’t once had a proper face to face row over anything of substance.
Any thoughts from the STW collective?
Cheers